It is extremely distressing to find out that your child has cancer. It can raise many different emotions. It is very normal to feel angry, sad, upset and shocked. It is such a lot to take in. You are likely to worry about whether they will get the right treatment, what will happen, and how you will all cope.
If you have other children most parents and grandparents worry about them as well. Practical help and support is something people nearly always need, for example, shopping or help with looking after other children in the family.
It is essential that parents and other close family members also have support. Talking to friends and other members of the family can help you deal with your feelings.
Talk to your child's specialist nurse or doctors about any worries that you have. They want you to feel comfortable and confident with the treatment and care that your child is getting.
Organisations that can help
The Children's Cancer and Leukaemia Group (CCLG) produces booklets for parents and brothers and sisters of children with cancer that you may find helpful. You can download these from their website.
CLIC Sargent is a charity that provides clinical, practical, financial and emotional support for children and young people and their families who are affected by cancer.
The Future Fertility Trust is run by a team of doctors, researchers and tissue bank specialists. They are from the University of Oxford and the Oxford University Hospitals NHS Foundation Trust.
It aims to help children and young people at risk of infertility due to illness or treatment.
Phone: 01865 220 076 (24 hour answer service)
Other sources of help
Some organisations can put you in touch with a cancer support group. We have information about books, leaflets and other resources about cancer treatment.
Cancer Research UK has an online forum called Cancer Chat. You may find it helpful to join the forum to talk to other people whose children or relatives have cancer.