Living with cancer
You may have several different feelings when you are told you have cancer. You may feel shocked and upset. You might also feel:
numb
frightened and uncertain
confused
angry and resentful
guilty
You may feel some or all of these feelings. Or you may feel totally different. Everyone reacts in their own way. Sometimes it's hard to take in the fact that you have cancer at all.
Feelings are a natural part of coming to terms with cancer. All sorts of feelings are likely to come and go.
Read more about mental health and cancer
On top of this, you may also be trying to quit smoking. Smoking during treatment such as radiotherapy may mean the treatment doesn't work as well and you may have more side effects. Stopping smoking also reduces your risk of developing another cancer and improves your general health.
Stopping smoking can be extremely difficult especially if you have smoked for many years. Try not to give yourself a hard time by putting too much pressure on yourself. The important thing is that you keep trying if you have failed. Focus on the benefits of giving up. Your doctors and nurses will help you to get the support you need to stop smoking.
Read more about how to stop smoking
You may be more able to cope and make decisions if you have information about your type of cancer and its treatment. Information helps you to know what to expect.
Taking in information can be difficult, especially when you have just been diagnosed or given news about your outlook. Make a list of questions before you see your doctor. Take someone with you to remind you what you want to ask. They can also help you to remember the information that was given. Getting a lot of new information can feel overwhelming.
Ask your doctors and specialist nurses to explain things again if you need them to.
You might feel that you don’t want to know much information straight away. Tell your doctor or nurse. You will always be able to ask for more information when you feel ready.
Remember that you don’t have to sort everything out at once. It might take some time to deal with each issue. Ask for help if you need it.
You can also do practical things such as:
making lists to help you
having a calendar with all appointments
having goals
planning enjoyable things around weeks that might be emotionally difficult for you
Talking to your friends and relatives about your cancer can help and support you. But some people are scared of the emotions this could bring up and won’t want to talk. They might worry that you won't be able to cope with your situation or be afraid they will say the wrong thing.
It can strain relationships if your family or friends don't want to talk. But talking can help increase trust and support between you and them.
Help your family and friends by letting them know if you would like to talk about what’s happening and how you feel.
Find out ways to help manage your emotions
You might find it easier to talk to someone other than your own friends and family.
Or you may want to see a counsellor.
Specialist nurses can help if you’re finding it difficult to cope or if you have any problems. They can get you the help you need. They can also give you information.
Read more about talking about cancer, including talking to children
You can chat with other people affected by cancer in our online forum
NHS website has a service that tells you about local information and support.
Nasal or sinus cancer and its treatment might cause physical changes to your face and neck. These changes can be very difficult to cope with. They can affect your self esteem and the way you relate to other people, especially close family and friends.
Read about coping with changes in your appearance
If you are having a sexual relationship, the changes might affect your sex life.
Read about sex and relationships
You might feel very tired and lethargic a lot of the time, especially during and for a while after treatment or if the cancer is advanced.
Read about coping with tiredness
Depending on the type of cancer and the treatment, you might have changes to the way that you breathe, eat or drink, or speak.
You and your family might need to cope with practical things including:
money matters
financial support, such as benefits, sick pay, prescription costs and grants
work issues
early retirement
childcare
Blue Badge applications
help with travel costs
changes to your house
Talk to your doctor or specialist nurse to find out who can help. You might be able to get some benefits for yourself and the person caring for you. You might also be able to get grants for heating costs, holidays and other household expenses related to your illness.
Getting help early with these things can mean that they don’t become a big issue later. It may be helpful to see a social worker. Many hospitals have a social worker available for people with cancer.
Read more about the practical support that is available to you
You might need some care and support at home due to nasal and paranasal sinus cancer, its treatment or when you have advanced nasal and paranasal sinus cancer. A lot of practical and emotional support is available to you.
Your GP manages your healthcare when you are at home. Your specialist doctor will update your GP about your cancer care. Your GP can help with any medical problems that come up. They can also make referrals to a community service for you. The availability of the different community services may vary depending on where you live.
These nurses work in different places in your local area and may visit you in your home. They can:
give medicines or injections
check temperature, blood pressure and breathing
clean and dress wounds
monitor or set up drips
give emotional support
teach basic caring skills to family members where needed
get special equipment such as hospital beds, special mattresses, commodes or bed pans
Community services vary from area to area. Your hospital specialist nurse can tell you what is locally available to you.
Community specialist palliative care nurses include Macmillan nurses and hospice nurses. They specialise in symptom management such as pain control, sickness, and other cancer symptoms. They also give emotional support to you and your carers.
Marie Curie nurses give nursing care to people with advanced cancer in their own homes. They can visit during the day or spend the night in your home to give your carers a break.
Read more about Marie Curie nurses
Social workers can help to support you with your situation at home. They can arrange:
home helps to help with shopping or housework
home care assistants for washing and dressing
meals on wheels
respite care
Your social worker can also help with money matters by checking you get all the benefits you are entitled to. Or they can advise you about charity grants for things like extra heating costs or special diets.
Contact a social worker yourself by getting in touch with your local social services office. Or ask your hospital nurse or your GP to refer you.
There is usually other help available but services can vary from place to place.
Sometimes local voluntary groups offer sitting services. Someone comes to stay with you while your relative goes out.
Good neighbour schemes offer befriending or practical help with shopping or transport.
Local cancer support groups often offer practical help. And they are a good source of information about services in your area. Ask your doctor or nurse about local groups.
It’s natural to want to find out what is likely to happen in the last few weeks or days of life.
You might need to choose where you want to be looked after and who you want to care for you.
Read our information about dying with cancer
Last reviewed: 20 Dec 2023
Next review due: 20 Dec 2026
Nasal and paranasal sinus cancer and its treatment can affect the way you eat and drink. But support is available and there are things you can do to help you cope.
Nasal or sinus cancer and its treatment might change the way you look and how you feel about yourself. But there is support available.
Nasal and paranasal sinus cancer and its treatment can cause eyesight changes in some people. But there is a lot of support and aids available to help you cope.
Nasal and paranasal sinus cancer and its treatment can affect your sense of smell. But there are things you can do to help you cope.
Nasal and paranasal sinus cancer and its treatment can cause changes to your hearing.
Nasal cancer or paranasal sinus cancer and its treatment might cause changes to your appearance and how you feel about yourself. This can affect your sex life. But there is support available to help you cope.
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