Making plans before you die
It is important to remember that most symptoms, especially pain, can be controlled.
Make sure that you talk to your medical team about any symptoms or problems you have. They will try to control any symptoms you have.
Some people feel so tired and weak that they don’t want to have medicines that could extend their life. For example, someone who gets a severe infection could choose not to have antibiotics, even if they know that without them, they will die very soon.
Doctors should explain what happens if you refuse any medicines. They should support you if you decide you don't want treatment. Your doctor can note your wishes in your medical notes. You can change your mind later if you want to.
As an adult, you can refuse medical care and treatment in the UK if you don't want to have it. Doctors can only give you treatment and medicines with your permission. You can set out your instructions about treatments you would like and which you don't want in an advance decision document. This is called an advanced directive in Scotland.
It can sometimes be very hard for your family and friends to accept that you don’t want any further treatment. You could ask your doctor or nurse to talk to your family and explain how you feel if this is a problem.
Read more about an advance decision
When you have a , your doctors may explain that they won't try to restart your heart and lungs if they stop working. Trying to restart them is called cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR).
Of course, it might be very upsetting for you and your family to hear this. But your doctors are saying this because trying to start your heart and lungs again won't work if you are very ill with advanced cancer.
The decision not to restart your heart and lungs when you have a cardiac arrest or die suddenly is called DNACPR. It stands for ‘Do not attempt cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR)’. It means there will be guidance for doctors and nurses on what or what not to do, including not giving CPR.
You also have the right to refuse CPR. You can discuss your views about CPR with your healthcare team. You can tell them whether or not you want them to try it.
The doctors take your wishes into account, but you can’t insist on having CPR. Your healthcare team can decide not to try it if they think it won’t work. But they will always discuss it first with you or your loved ones where possible.
Your doctors write the decision in your medical notes. That way, everyone looking after you is aware of it. You can ask for a second opinion from a different doctor. You can discuss the decision further with them.
The Resuscitation Council UK website has more information about resuscitation and your rights.
Last reviewed: 09 Jan 2025
Next review due: 09 Jan 2028
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