It can be very difficult to know whether to keep sending your children to school every day when someone in the family might die soon.
You will probably feel like keeping your child at home to be with their loved one as much as possible. But keeping some routine in your child’s life can help them to feel more stable and safe. It might help them to go to school and see that normal life can continue, even though things are changing at home.
There may also be days when keeping them home just feels like the right thing to do.
Talk to your child’s teacher about what is going on at home.
You don’t have to tell them anything in detail if you don’t want to. But if they know generally what’s happening, teachers can:
- understand why your child is behaving in a certain way
- give the support your child needs
- help to plan when to tell your child’s friends and classmates what they’re going through
Be sure to ask older children what they want you to do.
Teenage children might choose to tell their teachers themselves. Or they might not want their teachers to know at all. This could be because they don’t want the attention, or to be seen as different from the other children.
Reassure your teenager that their teacher can help and won’t tell anyone else without your child’s permission.
Older children might feel more comfortable talking to a close friend or older relative, rather than their teachers. But if you can, do try to convince them that the school needs to know about any major changes in a pupil’s life.