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Coping with brain tumours

Coping with a brain tumour can be difficult. You may find you have a lot of different feelings. There is help and support available. There are things you can do, people who can help and ways to cope with a diagnosis of brain tumour.

Everyone reacts in their own way. Sometimes it's hard to take in the fact that you have cancer at all.

Your feelings

Finding out you have a brain tumour can feel overwhelming, as though things are out of your control. You may feel shocked and upset. You might also feel:

  • numb
  • frightened and uncertain
  • confused
  • angry and resentful
  • guilty

You may have some or all of these feelings. Or you might feel totally different. Everyone reacts in their own way. One day you might feel positive and able to cope but the next day feel the exact opposite. This is natural.

Sometimes it's hard to take in the fact that you have a brain tumour at all.

Experiencing different feelings is a natural part of coming to terms with the disease. All sorts of feelings are likely to come and go.

Some people find that counselling can help them cope. Counselling can help to reduce stress and improve your quality of life. It can be difficult to access a counsellor through the NHS. It's worth asking your GP or your treatment team for the services that are available in your area. 

Finding out about your prognosis

There are lots of different types of brain tumours and the likely outcome varies greatly, depending on the tumour type and how well you are. Some brain tumours grow quickly and are likely to come back despite treatment. But many brain tumours are curable, or can be controlled for many years. 

Not everyone wants to know if their brain tumour isn't curable and how long they are likely to live (their prognosis). Reading information about survival can be difficult. You can save it to read another time when you feel ready. And it’s okay if you don’t want to read this information at all.

Survival statistics can be useful, but cannot tell you exactly what will happen to you. The best person to do this is your cancer specialist. Talk to your specialist if you want to know about your likely prognosis. 

Helping yourself

You are more able to cope and make decisions if you have information about your tumour type and its treatment. Information helps you to know what to expect.

Taking in information can be difficult at first, especially if you have just been diagnosed. Make a list of questions before you see your doctor. Take someone with you to remind you what you want to ask and help remember the answers.

Ask your doctors and nurses to explain things again if you need them to.

Remember that you don’t have to sort everything out at once. It might take some time to deal with each issue. Ask for help if you need it.

Talking to other people

Talking to your friends and relatives about your brain tumour can help and support you. But some people are scared of the emotions this could bring up and won’t want to talk. They might worry that you won't be able to cope with your situation.

It can strain relationships if your family or friends don't want to talk. But talking can help increase trust and support between you.

Help your family and friends by letting them know if you would like to talk about what’s happening and how you feel.

You might find it easier to talk to someone outside your own friends and family. For example your specialist nurse, or other people in a similar situation to you. You could join a support group, or contact one of the brain tumour charities.

Cancer chat

You might find it helpful to talk to other people affected by a brain tumour. Cancer Chat is our free online discussion forum for people affected by cancer. It is a safe space to talk to other people in similar situations, and find information and support.

Cancer Research UK nurses

If you have a question about cancer, you can contact our team of specialist cancer information nurses. Call free on 0808 800 4040, 9am to 5pm, Monday to Friday. To talk in your preferred language, ask for our interpreting service. Or you can send us a question online.

Coping with personality changes

You might have personality changes caused by the tumour itself or its treatment. These can be difficult to cope with and might affect how you feel about yourself. 

Personality changes can include: 

  • irritability or aggression
  • confusion
  • anxiety
  • mood swings
  • lack of interest and depression

Some people are aware of the changes happening and others aren't. Speak to your doctor or specialist nurse if you or your family notice changes in your personality. They can do some tests to find out what is causing the changes and give you some medicines to help. 

Coping practically

Practical things you and your family might need to cope with include:

  • money matters
  • financial support, such as benefits, sick pay and grants
  • work issues
  • childcare

Talk to your doctor or specialist nurse to find out who can help. Getting help early with these things can mean that they don’t become a big issue later.

How to support someone with a brain tumour

Supporting or caring for someone with a brain tumour can be challenging. You might not know what to say or how to deal with your loved one emotions. Every person with a brain tumour has a different experience so try not to assume how they might be feeling. You can ask them how they are feeling. But remember that they might not want to talk or think about their tumour all of the time.

It's also very important to take time to look after yourself, both physically and emotionally. Get some support for yourself if you are finding it hard to cope. 

Information and help

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