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How counselling can help

Counselling can help you sort out many different types of problems that you may face when you have cancer.

Counselling can help with:

  • coping with your reactions to cancer
  • family and relationship issues
  • exploring personal issues
  • dealing with practical issues

Reactions and stresses caused by cancer

There are many reactions to cancer you might have including:

  • fear or anger
  • strong reactions to changes to your body
  • anxiety about treatment

You may feel very angry, or find it difficult to cope with a feeling of loss of control. You might also feel very stressed about having to cope with side effects of treatment, such as fatigue, pain or sickness.

Cancer can stir up many deeply personal issues such as consideration of your:

  • spirituality
  • sexuality
  • relationships

Your family relationships

Cancer can also affect your family relationships.  You might find it affects how to talk to your children or your intimacy with your partner

It might also lead to role changes within the family, if you are no longer able to fulfil the role you used to, even temporarily.

Cancer can cause financial strain

You might need to have difficult conversations about:

  • financial support
  • mortgages
  • pensions
  • making a will

There may be practical issue such as transport problems or difficulty talking to your doctors. All these can cause family tensions or extra stress for you.

It can help to talk to someone outside your daily life

You may want to deal with things in ways that your friends or family don't agree with.

So it might help to talk through any of these issues and feelings with someone outside your friends and family.Your friends and family may be too close to the issues to see them clearly and objectively.

A counsellor can help you to find different ways of coping that hadn't occurred to you before. And because counselling is confidential, you can be honest about what is bothering you. 

Evidence that counselling helps people with cancer

There is no evidence to suggest that having counselling will help treat or cure your cancer. Nor is there any convincing evidence that it will help prolong your life.

But there is a lot of evidence that counselling can help you to cope better with the many difficulties you face, during and after your cancer diagnosis and treatment. It can help reduce the stress you face and improve your quality of life.

Doctors and nurses can’t always provide emotional support

Although some doctors and nurses may provide their patients with emotional and psychological support, many don’t feel comfortable doing this.

Some health care staff may not feel able to give support or they may not have the time.

Their main focus is on treating and curing your cancer. Of course, if you have cancer, this is very important. But many people are also worried about how they can cope with their illness and how it will disrupt their everyday life.

Because of this, some cancer units now have a counsellor or psychotherapist as part of their team.

Research shows that counselling can help

We know from research that counselling can help some people overcome the depression and anxiety that cancer can cause.

There’s also evidence that certain methods of counselling can help people deal with phobias about having cancer treatments. The phobias include:

  • fear of having injections
  • being confined to a small space during an MRI scan

Study show regular counselling helped

A study published in the September 2004 issue of the Journal of Clinical Oncology found that regular counselling sessions helped women with stage 2 or 3 breast cancer feel more relaxed.

There were 227 women on the trial. This was a randomised trial. The women were put into 2 groups. One group had a simple psychological assessment, with no counselling sessions. The other group had small group counselling sessions once a week for 4 months.

By carrying out regular blood tests, the researchers also found that the women in the counselling group had a boost in the activity of their immune system. The numbers of particular white blood cells called T cells got higher.

T cells are part of the immune system. Your immune system helps to protect your body against infection and illness. It can play an important role in people with cancer because:

  • cancer can weaken the immune system
  • cancer treatment can weaken the immune system
  • the immune system may help to fight cancer

Although the results of this study are very interesting, the researchers admit that we need much larger studies to find out for sure whether counselling does increase immune system activity in people with cancer.

Last reviewed: 
16 Jul 2014
  • Psychological, Behavioral, and Immune Changes After a Psychological Intervention: A Clinical Trial

    B Andersen and others

    Journal of Clinical Oncology 22, no. 17 (September 2004) 3570-3580.

  • Coping with cancer

    National Cancer Institute (NCI), July 2014

  • Patient and caregivers resources

    National Comprehensive Cancer Network (NCCN), July 2014

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