My Dad has terminal brain cancer and not long to go20 Mar 2023 19:55
What can I say? I am devastated that we are talking weeks left with my Dad. He went into hospital after he kept falling and they found a mass around 5 weeks ago in his brain. No one updated us with any info apart from his 2nd admittance to hopital just over two weeks ago where a doctor 'slipped up' and told us that he had a tumour that was cancerous. We processed it over a few days but then they said they weren't sure and would support us in a complaint about the member of staff that told us he did. A silver lining that he may be with us for a bit longer. Today My Dad had an appt which I went to with him as he was supposed to be going into a nursing home aswell. They had ruled out surgery as he is 80 ( I know you're thinking he's had a good innings but for me it makes it harder to let go) so I thought I was going to an appt to be told how they would manage it with meds so went to the appt alone with my Dad. .
I was told he has terminal brain cancer that is so agressive, he has a matter of weeks. I can see the decline in him everytime I go and visit and can't bear him not being here. When the surgeon was telling us, my Dad didn't fully understand so I was having to 'interpret' through my tears what he was saying. My Dad kept saying 'I'm a survivor' but I knew by their faces he hasn't got long. I pushed him from the hopistal in a wheelchair to my car and I cried in silence all the way. He just chatted and even said ' I might get to Blackpool for a couple of days in the Summer' which set me off again.
I feel like I'm on the verge of a breakdown as My 90 year old mother ( who my dad cared for up until a few months ago) has dementia and we put her in a nursing home as they said they would take my Dad and now they are refusing citing a heated discussion I had with a member of staff, regarding My Dad's admission, yesterday as the reason. We have asked a social worker to step in and are now considering a hospice for My Dad so will move my Mum to a nice care home as she was only in a nursing home because they said they would take my Dad.
I cannot go into work tomorrow as I am so upset and I work in a high school that had just experienced the death of a pupil over the weekend. I feel I am surrounded by sorrow and upset. I can't see how I will ever get over this, it is truly the worse day of my life.
How do you go about processing this?