Hello Navyman, 

I am sorry that your husband has stage 4 lung cancer and that this is making his behaviour even more difficult to manage. It must be so hard and so stressful for you and a lot for you to have to bear. You are doing everything you can to support him during this difficult time and it is clear that deep inside he knows and appreciates how much you are doing for him but his severe mood swings must be hard to manage. You are doing so well in these tough circumstances. 

I thought I would share with you the details of Relate who provide relationship support so don't hesitate to get in touch with them and talk about your situation. Many members of our forum currently find themselves in a similar place having to look after a loved one with terminal cancer which is by no means an easy thing. Your story reminded me of [@Fluffyjab]‍'s for whom it has not been easy either recently and whose husband has incurable stage 4 head and neck cancer. It sounds like you two would understand one another and would have a lot to share. You can read [@Fluffyjab]‍'s story on this thread. 

The forum is there for you as a platform to share your worries with others who understand exactly what you are going through. We're thinking of you during this challenging time.

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator