I'm sorry about your dad daddiesgirl.

I know you're wanting to know what to expect as the time draws near so I'm including some information we have about this on our website for you to read. Due to what is being discussed it can be a rather emotional read so it may be a good idea to read it in parts or have someone with you when you do.

Many of our members have also sadly been on this journey with their parents and loved ones and I'm sure when they come across your post they will offer what advice and support they can to help you at this difficult time.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

thank you for the information 

over a week ago he was given days, then during the week he said he wanted to know how long he had left before he died .. there was only me and dad here so i said well dad thats a hard one because it all depends on you .. hes been drinking milk daily to give him strenght he says .. but he looks so weak and im sad to say but i just want him out of pain now .. but hes tough and determined to hang on 

it says everyone is different but dad has all the symtoms of dying but doesnt seem to want to let go so its been a roller coaster ride one day hes up the next hes down and every down is getting lower 

heads all over the place 

Hi there ...

So sorry your going through this ... it's true some can leave so quickly ... others hang on in there ..

Just do what your allready doing ... hold his hand and walk with him on his last journey ... lots of us feel for you, and it's a hard one to answer, as there are no answers ... just take each day as it comes ... l bet he's so proud of his girl ...  I never had a daughter, but if I'd have had one half as caring as you , I'd be well proud too ... big hug ... Chrissie

its hard im getting agitatied with him trying to get up, the nurse has been to do his syringe driver and i asked him to check one of his legs, because he complained when i put it back in bed ... he said its his calf and might be a blood clot .. 

why oh why is my dad hanging on when surely he would want to be out of pain .. i love him dearly but seeing him like this is killing me a little bit more each day 

Hi daddiesgirl44

I'm sorry for what you are going through. I had a similar experience with my mum and my nan. They both held on for so long in pain while I sat and waited. I don't know if it was just timing or what but I told my mum it was OK to go and I would be OK, she passed away a couple of minutes later.  Same with my nan, we told her if she wanted to go and be with her family (her husband and both children had already died) then we were happy for her and she passed away the next morning. Sometimes that's what they are wanting to hear. 

I hope you both find your peace

Take care x

hello 

i asked him if he was tired of all this and he said yes, so i said its ok to go ya know, he said to where, i said to be with your wife ( she passed in Oct ) and he said oh im not ready yet .. so at least he knows we are ready for when he does go .. i dont know why hes hanging on but he is ..its just so painful to watch 

Bless him

He will go when he's ready, I know that doesn't t help you but please take care of yourself x

I'm loosing my daddy to he has stopped eating and very thin he's in his last week's his voice is going to I think near the last few days they sleep alot iv been reading and can't stay awake so maybe when that starts you shouldn't leave him. 

sorry to hear about your dad ... my dad sadly passed away in the early hours on Tues ... he looked so peaceful and im taking comfort in that. 

my dad sadly passed away in the early hours on Tues morning he looked totally at peace