Hi
My wonderful dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer in November, he was a fit and well 52 year old man and it all came quite out of the blue. Initially it was difficult to understand how he had a terminal cancer diagnosis whilst appearing to be so well. However the past few months have taken their toll and he looks unwell now and struggles to get around. It’s been so hard to see my strong dad become a frail man who spends most of his time in a chair watching television.
He hasn’t really talked about his prognosis and it’s difficult finding ways to ask questions about the future and his feelings. I want to find some joy in the time we have left but it’s hard.
I also work as a nurse in a critical care environment and did initially take time off with stress to spend time with family but financial constraints mean I have to work, however it’s becoming so difficult to work in an area where people need your emotional support and I’m struggling to give it.
I've spoken to a psychologist service provided by work who has helped with introducing me to meditation for sleep and talking through things and I’m speaking to friends but I just feel like I’m the only person going through this. I don’t want to have these selfish feelings and I want to enjoy the time I spend with my dad but I just keep thinking about him dying and it scares me to think about life without him.
I don’t know what I want to get from posting this but to read other people’s posts and know I’m not the only person going through is both sad and comforting.