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Wording to tell my son

Offline Polly26 over 6 years ago

I am wanting some advise firstly about telling my son who lives with us, he has epilespy which is not fully controlled,

and I dont know how to tell him I have cancer of the bowel, without him having seizures with the worry, he will not cope well at all.

Tomorrow, I find the full results, and if they can do something for me.

They have also discovered abnormalities in the bladder, which I am having investigated this week, and there

are small marks on the liver, which it turns out do not stem from the bowel.

Up to now I have had to wait 9 weeks for diagnosis, it is not the hospitals fault, i have a twisted bowel, but the wait has been unbearable.

thanks

Offline Chriss over 6 years ago

Hi polly ... you didn't say how old your son is ... as that can make a big difference... I found with children ... just my opinion as all kids are different ... honesty but done gently.. like my mastectomy.... I told my little grand daughter when she asked ... was, it was making nanny feel poorly so the dr took the things that was making nanny poorly away to make me feel better again .. when my other grandchildren have asked ...I've given them honest answers but no details ... just the basic answer to their questions ... and I found they are all good , knowing what's happening with out scaring ... children are amazing ... we worry so much about them and if it's done right , they get on with life and forget things 10 min later ... where us adults worry 24 / 7 hope that makes sense ... if you look confident when talking they will cope .. and even if they have a little cry .. you can reassure with a cuddle ...
sending you a big hug ... good luck ... hope it goes o.k whatever way you choose ... Chrisie xx
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Offline Polly26 over 6 years ago in reply to Chriss

Hi Chrisie Thank for taking the time to reply, I have had a hectic week hospital wise, I have since been told it is not bowel cancer but Lymphoma B cell, which was a shock. Sorry I forgot to mention my son is 38, but very immature. Thank you for your big huh.... pauline
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