What to do?What to say?

Recently I feel lost, my partners mum has a liver cancer,diagnosed very late and the doctors stopped her chemo last week. My dad died of lung cancer two years ago and I am still getting in to grips with the loss. I thought that I am getting back to myself and then we got the news about my partners mum. It could sound selfish but I find it very hard to cope, I can't even think what he feels,I can only imagine based on my own experience. I don't know what to say to him or what to do to make this easier on him? I know what all of you will say "You can't make this easier", I just wish I could do or say something that will help him.I'm not looking for a reply,I just needed to get this out as I have nobody that understands the situation to talk to about it. Thank you.

  • Hello Marta, People often say you have to be there for someone Show support and love etc. They seem like cliches but I guess everyone says it because it's true. Just keep doing all those little things (that you think are nothing) and they will all add up. I think it's normal to feel helpless and frustrated, What you said doesn't seem selfish to me, You want to be able to do what you can to help. X
  • Hi there ... just wanted to say hello and welcome ... I think Rebecca  said it all really .. you will help just listening... knowing someone cares is enough .. I found listening is one of the greatest gifts we can give .. and knowing you’ve been there too will mean so much .. you can’t make it go away , but you can walk their journey with them ... you can always write your feelings on here ... your not alone ... Chrisie x