What to do now???

In 2014, my father came up with a light red sore on his tongue, we all thought that it might be a normal sore and it will be ok....but it was there and was painless so,no one cared about it.....Then he went to an ENT specialist he gave him some medicine and told to come next week.He went but it was there as it is , again the doctor prescribed some medicine and told him that if this medicine won't work then we need to a biopsy.....My father took it lightly he didn't went to him after that....The sore was as it is, he took treatment from a homeopathic doctor who told that it will be alright , and it's not a big deal....

After 1 year a biopsy confirmed it was stage 3 cancer,he went through a surgery and removed a part of his tongue in 2016.Everything was ok till mid of 2017 and after that a pet scan confirmed that he had stage 4 cancer metastasized to his lungs.He went through 4 rounds of chemotherapy...we thought everything will be alright now but after some days his mouth started bleeding,and we went to the doctor he told us that nothing can be done now ...he had to take chemotherapy through which he had to suffer a lot of pain.....

We all decided to not to give him chemotherapy and now presently we are giving him ayurvedic treatment but the condition is getting worsened day by day....

His forehead is swelled up at one side and he is having a lot of pain which is unbearable.....

Whenever I see him I get my eyes wet knowing Now no doctor wants to help him....

I don't know what to do now??? how to build up confidence??? How to be  a support for my family

  • Hi Prachi

    I'm so sorry your father is suffering so and feels unable to procede with chemo which I presume would have been adjuvant treatment to suppress the spread of the cancer.

    He has every right to accept or reject any treatment and I'm sure he was kept well informed with the decisions made on his behalf. He himself needs to be confident that you are doing the right thing and you sound like you are a close and caring person.

    The doctors probably feel that in rejecting the approach they thought might help, they can offer no alternative. However they should be able to provide palliative pain control so I think you should go back to them, either through the cancer team or GP.

    I do hope you manage to help your father in a way that will lessen his suffering as soon as possible.

    With kind regards

    David