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Waiting for breast biopsy result

2 Mar 2020 19:42 in response to Jolamine

Hey Jolamine

Thanks for thinking of me. So stage 3 invasive ductal cancer not specifc type triple negative. 

I have an appointment with the oncologist on the 13th March and then 6 months of chemo, followed by surgery and possibly radio but I am more inclined to have a mastectomy.

Thankfully they were persistent with me.

G x

Waiting for breast biopsy result

2 Mar 2020 22:57 in response to Gistaline

 

Hi Gistaline,

I'm sure that this is not the news you wanted. Have you been given the choice between a lumpectomy and a mastectomy? I have had both. The lumpectomy was 10 years ago and the bilateral mastectomy was 9 years ago, when I discovered another lump, which was another primary cancer. I found that the double mastectomy was easier to cope with and I din't need radiotherapy or chemotherapy after this.

Please let us know how you get on on 13th March. We aare always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Waiting for breast biopsy result

3 Mar 2020 07:05 in response to Jolamine

Hi Jolamine,

To be honest even though it's a diagnosis I feel lucky, I was so inclined to walk away last week after them .missing it first time.

Ive not been offered surgery first, I have to have chemo first to shrink it and get it under control and then the surgeon wants to do a lumpectomy, but I am more inclined to have a mastectomy, and a double one so I don't have to have radiotherapy and because if there is no breast tissue it can't come back there. I don't know but we have all that to talk about.

My kids are older but living at home but they both have autism so I am more concerned about them managing all of the treatment and how they will feel if it comes back. So lots of wait and see.

Thanks for being there, I will be back to you xx 

Waiting for breast biopsy result

3 Mar 2020 15:20 in response to Gistaline

 

Hi Gistaline,

Chemo  is offered first where there is a sizeable lump in order to  reduce it before surgery. A number of surgeons don't want to do a double mastectomy, as they see no point in removing a good breast. They claim that having doesn't improve your chances that much more than having a single mastectomy. 

I was fortunate, in that my surgeon was quite happy to give me the bilateral mastectomy with my second bout of cancer. I certainly fe;lt happier with this as I felt that I have removed as much as possible to prevent another recurrence. Bear in mind that even if all your breast tisdsue is removed, you can still get it elsewhere in the body.

You will find it easier to discuss things with your care team if you draw up a list of questions before you go to your next consultation. It will be especially difficult for you to manage your treatment without worrying your children. You will find that the more positive you appear about getting a cure, the better your family will react. 

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

 

Waiting for breast biopsy result

9 Mar 2020 14:33 in response to Jolamine

Hi Jolamine,

I have found out which kind of cancer....Type Invasive Ductal...Grade 3...... Size 23mm.....Lymph nodes normal

 

Best wishes

Limey

Waiting for breast biopsy result

9 Mar 2020 18:42 in response to limey

 

Hi Limey,

I'm glad to hear that you now know a little more about the type and grade of cancer you have. This should be handy to know whenever you are asked about your medical history. I am glad to hear that your lymph nodes were clear. This is always good news, as it means that there is no spread.

The fact that you had a mastectomy means that you have taken away as much as possible and, was possibly the reason that you didn't need radiotherapy or chemo.  I was the same when I had my bilateral mastectomy 9 years ago. I was told that I didn't need radiotherapy or chemotherapy either, but I did take Letrozole for 6 years after that. I finished taking this 3 years ago.

You must be coming up to the time for your CT scan soon. I hope that this goes well.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Waiting for breast biopsy result

25 Mar 2020 23:45 in response to Sazcop

I am so happy for you!! Thank you for your post. I am a mom raising my two boys alone and I have two foster sons now also. I get my result back day after tomorrow and this has given me some hope. 

Waiting for breast biopsy result

26 Mar 2020 00:52 in response to NJLahori

 

Hi NJLahori,

A very warm welcome to our forum. Never forget that, whatever the outcome of your tests, there is always hope. It all becomes easier to cope with once you know what you are up against. How old are your boys? It sounds as if you have your hands full!

Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

I shall be thinking of you on Friday and, hoping for the best.


Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Waiting for breast biopsy result

26 Mar 2020 08:52 in response to Jolamine

Dear Jolamine, 

 

Thank you for your reply Happy

 

My boys are 9, 13, 15 and 17.

 

Hands and head usually full but they have been gone for holidays since beginning of March to Dubai... All but the 13 year old. Who is shouldering the lock down and the news with me. 

 

It's great to be hear. I find myself thinking morbid thoughts, like "it's not a big deal to be buried...I won't even know, I'll be dead" and how the boys will grow up, how my parents will cope, if I'm gone. And imagining the moment they tell me good or bad news. And what then? I do want to protect the boys of from all info but they sense my anxiety. 

I also vacillate from.anxiety to this total calm and acceptance of whatever it may be. 

Although... I think I'm always petrified. Perhaps. Not sure. 

 

All my love ... NJ

Waiting for breast biopsy result

26 Mar 2020 14:59 in response to NJLahori

 

Hi NJ,

We all tend to think morbid thoughts at this stage and try to plan for every eventuality in our heads. This is just too much to cope with and, most of our worries will never come to pass. We are all afraid of dying and scared of the unknown. Try to takes things day by day, or even hour by hour, if day by day is too much to take on.

You will naturally be worried about your boys and your parents. Your boys are old enough to understand what you are going through and to help you alng this road. It is a hard time for all of you, as cancer doesn't just affect you. It affects all of your loved ones too.

Irrespective of whether they are bad or good, you will feel better once you get your results tomorrow, as you will know what lies ahead. You will also find that it is better to tell the boys what you are going through. They are old enough to sense what is going on. Children also have big ears and can overhear telephone or other conversations. They are better to hear the facts from you, instead of overhearing part conversations and misinterpreting the facts. They will be less stressed if you can openly discuss all that is happening and, they can approach you with any worries they may have. They don't need chapter and verse, just a simple explanation.

Your parents will naturally be worried too. The more positive you can appear, the better everyone will cope with the news. Are you taking someone with you to your appointment tomorrow? This is always a good idea. That having been said, I sincerely hope that you get good news. Please let us know how you get on.

Fingers crossed.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx