Having been in your position, i can safely say there is no magic bullet that can make the waiting process less stressful. Mentally, it's one of the worst parts during this journey. Keeping busy is all you can do. However, that is a lot easier said than done. I couldn't concentrate on anything myself.

Being told my wife had BC wasn't even as bad as the 2 week wait. She herself found it a walk in the park compared to the waiting. Though, that doesn't hold true for everyone.

Did they actually come out and say it's probable cancer, or did your sister maybe just read too much into something that was said? They told my wife hers was most probably cancer, but sometimes when we're fearing the worst we can read waaay too much into words or even actions of others. Like, they nurses are looking at me funny etc. It can get crazy like that.

I'm very sorry you and your sister are going through this. I had a lump that turned out to be a completely benign cyst. The mammogram is always scary but remember most come out to be completely fine! I have fingers crossed for you.

Thank you so much for your reply and so sorry to hear about your wife, can I ask how is she doing now?

She was in for 3 hours, they firstly said it will be a cyst then said its not a cyst it's possibly fibroids then after the mammogram they have said they need a bi opsy as it's not what they thought it was. The breast nurse called her back at night to move the appointment for tests back as it wouldn't be in on time and she asked her then what has she seen and could it be cancer and the lady said yes it could be from what we have seen it does look concerning as there is calcification surrounding the lump.  My sister asked is it treatable and she said yes we will be treating it and need a further bi opsy of the calcification and mri scan. So over all we're not finding much positivity from what they have said its as if they know it is and trying to break it gently.

Just praying for a miracle she is going to be OK.

My wife's cancer was as bad as things can get on the curable side of things. It was grade 3, and quite extensive in her breast, and in 2 lymph nodes. But it was stage 3, not stage 4.

A few weeks ago she was told she was cancer free, or no evidence of disease. The chemo melted it and no cancer cells were found at all during the pathology after the op. she's about to start the last part of the journey this week when her radiotherapy begins. But that's just a belts and braces sorta thing.

Even if your sis did have bc, it's not a death sentence. Many, many women recover.

As for what you can do for her, just listen to her. The natural thing to do is want to help any way you can, but sometimes being "helpful" gets irritating quickly. I was beginning to annoy myself at one point with all my great ideas, so just let her do the talking. Because the last thing she needs is an extra burden placed upon her by thinking she has to see to your conscience too.