Hi there ...

So sorry you've been diagnosed so young ... it seems on here, it's affecting those more so now ... 

Well I came on here in 2017 ... scared with a new diagnosis of breast cancer ... I had a grade 3 her 2 neg oestrogen positive lump ... and thought the worse and was looking ahead and thinking the worse ... a lovely lady on here took me under her wing... and I started chatting to another 5 / 6 new breast lasses .

Well I stopped panicking as my daughter in law said ,no more panic ... don't look ahead, concentrate on today ... we will take each problem as and when it comes up.... and well do it together ... so with the other lasses on here, we got our pink boxing gloves on, got in the ring and looked it in the eye ..

Most of those have gone back to their life post cancer... one lass has had two little ones after her treatment... and a couple of us stick round here, to help those other newly diagnosed... it's not a walk in the park ... it's like a rollercoaster ride... highs one minute and lows the next ... but if you hold on tight, wer all on there with you ... 

We here the sad stories,  but there's plenty living on after this diagnosis... so hold on in there ... sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x

Hi

I'm sorry to hear your story. I've been there I know exactly how you are feeling. In December 2020 I was diagnosed with breast cancer and I'm 34, with no history of cancer in the family. I couldn't believe it when they told me. I felt horrendous for the first few days, constantly googling breast cancer, constantly reading posts, and you just cry. You don't quite believe it's happening. The waiting for the results, the waiting for the surgery will be the toughest, but I promise you once you start the treatment you will feel better. People said that to me and at that point I didn't believe them but honestly you will. Trust in your breast nurse and the team, they will help and they are amazing at what they do. I've now had surgery and I'm scared of everything including needles, but you get on with it and you get through it. I've just finished radiotherapy and now I'm starting hormone therapy. 
 

My advice is don't google, if you want to read get a book, that certainly helped me. Listen to Chrissie there is plenty of living on after diagnosis. Take one day at a time. You will soon be able to sleep, it's just all really raw at the moment. 
 

Sending you a cuddle xx

Hi [@Chriss]‍ 

Thank you for your reply, I really appreciate you taking the time to send your message. 
I am still trying to take in exactly what it is, the positives/negatives and all the terminology is so new! 
it is great to know that there is a supportive community here, none of my family or friends know what to say or do, just like me so it's nice to have a safe space to sound off!

thanks again for messaging Chrissie, it really means a lot xx
 

Hi [@DanniB13]‍ 

Thank you for your message. I think this is exactly what I needed to see and read this morning!

I'm not sure if congratulations is the right thing to say but it sounds like you've done some amazing fighting over the last couple of months and that's really inspiring!

You are so right about the waiting. I just want the appointment for the mri ASAP and then I will know what to expect from surgery and what treatment I will need. 
 

Thanks again for posting today and for sharing your story with me xx

I'm so sorry you have found yourself on here and being diagnosed with breast cancer. I too had been and I am coming up to a year since diagnosis. Like the other lovely ladies on here have said, it is a huge shock, I felt the same disbelief and absolute terror. My brain thinking of the worst things imaginable. I still can't believe those words were said to me either even though I've had my surgery and radiotherapy and have to take tamoxifen but it is all doable. I googled incessantly but it didn't really help, have faith in the breast care team they work wonders.

wishing you all the very best & everyone on here is so kind & often around even in the middle of the night.

Best wishes x

Thank you [@123nelly]‍

'doable' is a word I can really resonate with today. I am trying to be very positive and my family are definitely encouraging this. But for me it's really important that I am realistic, whatever happens, I know it isn't going to be easy but I will have to do it and I will manage. 
 

I'm very grateful to hear from people like yourself who have been there, that means the world! Tamoxifen is a new word for me...but I won't google it...promise!! X

Hey [@MissThomas1988]‍ im just checking in to see how you are and how you are feeling now? I hope the anxiety has eased alittle for you and you've been able to get alittle more sleep. 
 

 Xx