Soozee.  I am so sorry you have lost your lovely Mum - I too have the disease from which she suffered.  If it is any comfort at all, I dont know if it is Godsend that she was unaware that her cancer had spread and was able to leave this world after a 'happy day' with her family oblivious to what may happen to her.  I wish many times that I didnt know all that is happening in my body so that I could live a normal life without the overwhelming thoughts of what will be, consuming my every waking moment.

It does not help all the unanswered questions for the family left behind I know and my heart goes out to you all x

I am so sorry to hear about your plight. Yes, it is a good thing we were all unaware. No real suffering that we knew of. Sending big hugs and lots of love and positive thoughts xxx

dear soozee i know what you are going through, i lost my mum to ovarian cancer last december, she got ill in november and we had to get her in hospital in early december where she was diagnosed late stage 4 she was sick every day and could not move of the bed, she only lasted three weeks before she passed, did not know she had this ovarian cancer, it turns out you do not get any symptoms till late stages, and there is no early detection for it yet which is unfair, mum had also been in remmision from early stage breast cancer from 2011, but cancer seems to come back no matter what, it also hurts because mum could not have any treatment because the cancer had already spread through her body,looking back mum only symptom was stomach bloating and feeling tired but was told it was intorelance stomach problem like i b s symptoms, i think doctors should be more aware and not thobb paitents of for what they think it is, and after her breast operation mum was not offered any scans just a yearly chest breast xray nothing else, i often get told i am lucky to have had mum for seventy four years but thats not the point i miss her like crazy, eight months on it  still hurts, i hope you can get through it like i have to but its gonig to take time, cheers  oggi

Thanks Oggi. I am so sorry about your Mum. The pain or losing a mum is the worst ever. It's constantly there and I doubt things can ever feel the same again. 

To be given the all clear after mammograms is not really the "all-clear". It all seems like one big cover up! Mum would have been a positive/survivor statistic as she died from pneumonia in the end. I can't understand how she was fine in happy day, but died that very night. We are glad that she didn't have to suffer - not that we knew of, other than a tired feeling, but I really can't get my head around how she was taken hours after I saw her, when she was fine. Love to all xxxx

hi sooze thanks for your reply, yes i have to agree with you about the mammograms, i got fooled into thinking mum was alright cause they got her breast cancer at a early stage and had not spread, but it seems you can,t win as cancer will always come back at some point, mum was going back yearly after her breast operation for breast exrays, but you would have thought she would be offered a full body scan for signs of a new cancer starting, but i read they say ovarian cancer is hard to detect in its early stages because symptoms are so vague, and on top of this they still have not found a early detection screening for it yet which i find mind boggoling, its  like mum had no chance what so ever, mum sufferd really bad in hospital they could not stop her from being sick every day she could not move of the bed, and she could not keep any thing down, and  in a lot of pain,but at least she did not have to suffer anymore when she passed, cheers oggi

I have just read this its heartbreaking sorry for your loss my mum had breast cancer 4 years ago and 3 weeks ago we found out it had come back in her lung and bones devastated she cant ecen talk about it we dont no what to do for her as a family she is having treatment to prolong her life which for us as her kids is hard to hear so how she feels...well I cant imagine waking up everyday knowing that..it would be easier for my mum not to no....cancer is a very cruel thing and hard to talk about hope you didnt mind me commenting xx

Hi max just wanting some advice my mums breast cancer has come back in her lung and her bones you seem a strong person been able to talk about it my mum hasnt spoke about her cancer since diagnosed 4 weeks ago they started treatment within days to prolong her life....how do I speak to her what can I ask her I have no idea she is not a strong person she is so scared and has panic attacks and wont leave the house do you have any advice a a strong person going through this thanks

dear nicola1, sorry about your mum, i hope she can get treatment for a longer life, sadly my mum had the worst cancer you can get ovarian cancer is a silent disease and and you not get any symptoms till its to late mum could not get any treatment while she was in hospital because the cancer had spread up to her neck and was told they could not do anything, and of course mum was already in remission from early stage breast cancer, i was fooled in thinking mum would be alright after her breast cancer cause they got it early and had not spread, but the dam cancer seems to come back no matter what, mum then was dealing with two cancers which took its toll, i must be greatfull i had mum for seventy four years, i lost my dad at just fourty seven due to a unexpected heart attack which i think was brought on by stress, i am lucky to have three sisters for support, like i say hope it goes well with treatment with your mum, cheers oggi

Thankyou for your reply its just so hard wondering wether to ask her doctor how long do we have with vher...do we want to no do we need to no to think about caring for her my mum is 56 she not coping well with the news and dont no what to ask her we make sure we go to all her appointment as she has four kids and we are all grown up im 35 what are the right questions to ask her and her doctor I have no idea

hi nicola , i suppose it may be your mum wish to push for long she has, but it depends on the treatment she has to prolong her life, i remember we was told to go up after my mum had the scan so we new it was  bad news, after the doctor explained to us what they found on the scan i remember mum saying how long have i got, and all they said we don,t know, some doctors give you a rough idea but mum passed just three weeks after being told she had cancer, but thats because they could not give her any treatment cause the cancer had already spread, i feel guilty because  eights months on it still feels raw mum passing, but your mum is only 56 years old, where my mum was  seventy four, and i have got to take in acount that some people have to deal with having cancer much younger then my mum, i often get told i am lucky to have had mum for seventy fours years and you get some idiots saying that is young,i am sure you will be able to push for results, take care oggi