Hi there ... and welcome to our little chat room ... 

I was diagnosed grade 3 her 2 neg breast cancer last July ... at first the panic of hearing the word cancer sets in and takes over every thought ... and what ifs ... and I think we nearly all go through that ... my son did too ... but my daughter in law said ... no more panicking.... no more what ifs .. no more second guessing .. we will deal with it as and when it comes up, and we'll do it together .. 

That snapped us out of panic mode ... we lived in the day .. and now I'm 10 months post mastectomy, and doing really well .. I thought a grade 3 meant I wouldn't be around long .. but here I am chatting to you ..  I know you want to sort everything out and find out everything , but what l would say I've learned on here, is every cancer is different ... every treatment is different .. no one can guaranty an outcome ..

It would take years to learn all the different sinarios ... and what helped me most was when my son calmed down, but walked by my side .. that's what your mum needs now .. not an expert in cancer, but someone who goes to appointments and tests, and ask the questions that will help .. and write down answers in a way she can understand ..

There's lots of us breast ladies on here .. all different stages and treatments .. and we chat about all things in life not just cancer, coz we need to feel normal in a situation that is anything but .. we may have cancer, but it doesn't have us ... if your mum ever wants to chat , there's lots of us here that will hold her hand and guide her through ..  sending you a big hug ... Chrissie x

Thank you so much for this. I felt so angry, that why her thing. And scared that I would lose her. We have very overly ambitious cancers in our family they like to move very fast and be very industrious (what a brag right?). My cervical cancer moved quickly, my grandmother's unfortunately moved too quickly to save her life, my mum's multifocal has sprouted about a year after her mammogram which just terrifies me.

I'm trying not to think about it as we haven't had the scans yet, I just am scared it's relocated itself in that nasty over reaching way it has. I just want them to hurry up scan her cut it all out and blast her with cancer killing chemicals so we can get rid of it. 

I've told mum I'm here and we are going to hit it like a freight train being just as aggressive with it as its been with her. She looks so well though, I just can't reconcile that she's sick. But im here for her, I'm staying with my parents until her op in a week and then I'll be staying after for some time too. They seem to like having me around so if it makes it easier I'm happy to stay. 

Cross your fingers for her ok? She's my mum and she's amazing and the thought of anything happening to her makes me feel like I've tripped at a cliff edge. 

Xxx

I went and read some more info and I shouldn't have I'm not in a proper anxious shake trying to control the anxiety. 10 lymphs is a lot. I'm so scared I don't know what to do.