I'm so sorry for you and what you had to watch your mum go through it sounds awful , I know how you feel.I won't go on to much as you are obviously broken hearted and a lot to deal with at the moment, I was of this chat for a while but I'm here if you need to talk god bless you and Take care x
My mum died one and a half years ago, following a heart attack. One minute, she was ordering her dinner. The next, she was given a driver, became unresponsive, and we lost her a few days later.
We have never really known whether or not the driver sped up her passing. Having come across this thread today, I am keen to know where your investigation is up to.
I am truly sorry for what you went through with your father. I hope you are beginning to come to terms with it.
My very best wishes to you x
Omg your mum was given the driver after a heart attack? That dosent make sense to me .it's quite obvious that the driver had something to do with it.why give your mum the driver?was she in a lot of pain? You poor thing it's not to late to ask questions at the hospital where she died it would help you move on x
I have read a lot on this site over the last few days. My mother is close to the end with pancreatic cancer. My sister and I both agreed that mum should be put on a syringe driver to relieve her suffering which is huge. We were told it is normal for someone to be on a syringe driver for 3 to 4 days. My mum is now on day 13 and still she is with us. So I know there has been a lot said about them speeding things up but in my experience that hasn't been the case. My sister and I and all the staff looking after mum are doing everything we can to keep her comfortable and as pain free as possible but she is still suffering terribly and has even begged us to let her die. The syringe driver has brought some relief but we really wish for mum's sake that it had speeded things up. I can only hope that today she will get the peace she needs and deserves.
We had a similar positive experience with the Syringe Driver when my Mum reached the end of her life.
Syringe drivers when used correctly and appropriately are a good tool. The negative experiences seem to happen when something goes wrong with the doseage, the titration or the frequency the drugs are given - the wrong drugs being prescribed or patients being put on a syringe driver too early or too late.
Thanks Dave. I think that what you say is true it is about doseage. We feel mum's doseage is not enough as she continues to linger and her breathing is now unbearable to listen to and the meds for that at least are having no effect as she sounds like she is drowning in her own secretions. My dad died of breast cancer some years ago and had the 'death rattle'. At the time I thought that was awful to listen to but it was nothing in comparison to listening to my mum over the last two days. I just hope each day for her release and I can honestly say I love my mum dearly and it is horrible to watch her suffer like this and I can only wish that syringe drivers did speed up the end for her sake.
Dr Shipman has a lot to answer for, not least the fact that the control of opiates at the end of life is now far more tightly controlled.
I hope your Mum's pain is under control.
Heart-breaking I know. My own views on euthanasia were established at an early age when my Grandma suffered several strokes and had resulting major losses of her physical and mental functionality. That was almost 50 years ago, but my views are unchanged.
Hopefully one day our politicians will be better aligned to the public's views on the issue.
Based on my experience within my own family (my Mum died peacefully at home) I want to have a syringe driver when I reach my own end of life with cancer.
The driver simply enables a controlled amount of pain killers to be administered without the need for countless injections which can be very distressing for both the patient and their family.
I recognise that not everyone has had such a positive experience of syringe drivers but where there have been problems these have almost certainly been down to inappropriate use of the drivers or issues with the drugs used..
I don't think the term "syringe drivers" helps. It gives the impression that the drugs are forced into the patient's body rather than injected in a similar way to a manual injection but without constant human intervention.
A few weeks ago I chanced across this interesting article from the Nursing Times which explains what syringe drivers are and the common misperception by families that these are associated with imminent death.