Hi Emma,

I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my mum on 26th September last year and like you the tears still fall, sometimes it just comes over you like a wave and there's not much you can do. I am 10 years older than your mum was when she passed away, life can be so cruel sometimes, so young.

I think we have to accept that you don't get over losing a parent but there will be a stage when it will become easier to bear and you won't break down regularly....but there are no time-frames and as we're all individual, so is our grief. It sounds as though you have your hands full looking after your brothers and you must be a great support to them.

You may find it helps to talk to your Doctor or he/she may be able to recommend a counsellor, I think on thw whole from the posts I read here, counselling seems to help. I am struggling and am going to my first counselling session tomorrow.

Ours mum's are irreplaceable but they made us who we are today, gave us our strength to carry on when sometimes it feels so hard to do so. No denying, it is hard , what wouldn't we give just for one more moment, one more hug ...I think my mum is looking down on me now and I don't want her to see me cry....

I very much hope it gets easier for you Emma, you sound like a very courageous young woman.

x

So sorry about the loss of your mum, seems like it’s hard losing a parent at any age. I was 19 when my mum passed away. 

Ive tried a couple of different councillors when she first passed but I think I was still numb to what had happened so it didn’t really work. I have a doctors appointment today so I’m hoping they can get me back on track with my mental health and get some help. 

I hope you find peace with your mothers death and it don’t bring you down for so long like it has me . 

Ps thanks for the reply! X

Hi you wonderful daughter / sister ...

I lost both parents in my 30s ... it's never easy, when we love them like we do ... what helped me was thinking what my mum would say to me ... and the feeling I got was her saying... I'm right here ... you can't see me, but I'm right beside you ...

Your mum must be saying how proud she is of you... and to care for your siblings when so young .. couldn't have given you the space you needed to grieve properly... I recon you've held a lot in ... and that means it's harder to move out of that raw pain it gives us ... to look after them and not have those years when all you should be thinking is dating and going out having fun ... I cannot imagine how I'd have coped ..

But please remember, you didn't loose mum .. she's right there, you are half of her ... she made you .. so when you look in the mirror,  know she's right there tucked up in your heart ... she will live through you.. in everything you do ... I've felt mum with me over the years ... when I was diagnosed with breast cancer.. I found lovely white feathers every day and so many were in my bra ... the day I got the news it was contained ... they stopped ... but you have to be open to signs .. so many just put things down to coincidence ... 

Any time you need a chat or vent ... or just talk about things... you'll always find someone here to listen and hold your hand ... your not alone ...  big hug ... Chrissie