Hi Harper, 

I'm really sorry for what you are going through, I've just been there. It was the toughest days of my live. 

You just cannot work out how you all suddenly fell in this black hole. 

It's so tricky for you if you don't live close but I would highly recommend going as very much as you can,like you are doing, it's hard seeing your Dad like that but I get comfort in the fact I was there and actually even had a few good times and some laugther during his battle. 

It's a terribly hard situation that know one wants to find themselves in. 

Sending best wishes and strength. 

Rosie x

Ive just posted about my dad who lives far away, just had his first course of BCG and side effects are horrendous. I completely understand how you feel, it's hard not being there for them. I'm so sorry your dad is terminal. Sending you lots of strength and wish your dad all the best.

Hi Harper,

I just wanted to reach out to you as I am in a very similar boat to you. I am 44 and my dad is 72. He has been diagnosed with a very rare form of cancer called Dedifferentiated Sarcoma. He lives on the other side of the world and I too am struggling to cope with it all. He recently had surgery to remove one of his kidneys, but 1 month later we have found that the cancer has spread to his lungs. We are about to find out if his heart will take the chemo and if so, what we would gain from it. He won't do it if it's 1-2 months. This will give us about 2 months left. It's so surreal to say these words as they can't possible be about my dad. He is super positive about the life he has led, which makes things even harder to accept that we will lose him.

I hope for a miracle for both our dads. Please keep us updated as to how you are doing. I will try and offer words of encouragment, if I can.

Sparkes x