I was diagnosed in October 2019. Cancer in right breast & lymph nodes. Surgery was December for right mastectomy with abdominal reconstruction & total lymph node removal. I thought long about which decision was right for me & I felt this was it. Have no regrets about the surgery & was able to joke with friends I'd got a boob job as well as a tummy tuck. It was by no means an easy surgery (12 hours on the table apparently) but still feel it was right for me despite many others offering their opinions (some of whom I barely knew - why is it that strangers love to pressure you with "what you really should do is......!?)
I underwent FECD & had my chemo partner for the first 3 before Covid-19 changed that. My darling father died after my 4th treatment & with lockdown, after the funeral, we couldn't grieve together. This one hit me hard but in hindsight I think I was keeping upbeat & positive for my dad so it was a mixture of grief but also now acknowledging chemo is hard! I start my radiotherapy on Tuesday & because of a successful clinical trial, I get this slightly more intensively but only for 5 days. I'm dreading it.
After many weeks apart I chose to recover at my mum's- peace & quiet & with 3 kids mid to late teens, they were capable of taking care of home. I've just felt incredibly guilty that I can't find the energy to be there for them & do the laundry, housework etc.
I'm struggling with the induced menopause, sweats, can't sleep etc. My husband has been really understanding despite being in poor health too. (Feel guilty about this too!) I just wonder if many of you have bad days either emotionally or physically?
I hear of people continuing to work throughout their treatments and am in awe. My family tell me how great I look but all I see is a bald, hairless stranger looking back at me & I don't like her.
Any coping mechanisms you could suggest would be great. I did have a breast cancer nurse initially but she's been unavailable so many times & had a very gung-ho attitude that it would be a breeze.
Sorry if this is a depressing introduction - I'm usually upbeat - but I just wanted to talk to others who have actually been through it & know how it really feels. Thank you