My boyfriend of 2 years was disganosed with stage 4 gastric cancer with metasis to the bowel in December 2018. I’m 26 he’s 30.
We were both upset and shocked at the diagnosis, I’ve been with him every step of the way since, chemo, appointments, hospital stays, staying up night when he’s unwell, looking after the house, caring for him, etc. Our relationship has strained. I love him and I’ll do anything for him but I’m no longer happy. Yes we have good days but he mostly takes his bad moods out on me several days during the week. He isn’t like that with anyone else. We don’t do anything together that isn’t to do with his health, any fun social things he does are saved for his friends as he wants to make the most of it. I’m not sure why he wouldn’t want to make the most of the time he as with me too.
Not one of his friends has been there when he was in hospital or for any chemo etc but they in his head do so much for him and he tells me I don’t do anything. Even going as far to say he doesn’t care if I get upset because he doesn’t care.
I try and talk things through but he tells me to shut up. It’s hurtful.
Has anyone else been treated this way caring for a partner with cancer. I keep telling myself he doesn’t mean it but not sure how much longer I can cope. Or am I just being really selfish? I don’t know.
