Hi,

I'm very interested to hear the replies to this post. My husband has just been diagnosed with liver cancer (secondary - seems to have spead from small bowel). He is tired all the time, hardly eating and has a cough he can't seem to get rid of. I'm so desperately worried we won't have long together.

So sorry to hear about your family member, what a horrible disease this is.

Sarah

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Mary-Jane sorry to hear about your family friend, I do not have experience of liver cancer (my close friend/neighbour died of lung cancer recently) but would ask have they been seen by their GP as if there are any changes like not eating & other symptoms it may change things but eating did reduce to nothing with my friend but drinking also reduced dramatically too. My neighbour did have the other symptoms of hallucinations, dry mouth & very sleepy. Some agitation, disturbance of sleep/wake cycle. It if was me I would chat to their GP. Please take care Xx

Sarah am sorry to hear of your husbands diagnosis,  It maybe best to speak to GP if new symptoms since diagnosis, re the cough my close friend got a chest infection/pneumonia on top of the lung cancer and had to have antibiotics, hence worth getting it checked out. Take care I am sorry that you are in this situation hoping someone else will come along too witht advice for you xx

I have posted this link a few times now but it has some information about signs to look for and other information it was given to me by nursing home it may be useful to have sorry if it is too soon for you both but it helped me.

This link does talk about dying and I appreciate it may be upsetting, I am one of thise people that wants to be prepared but not everybody does so ignore if its not appropriate for you at this time xx

 www.ageuk.org.uk/.../talking_about_death_booklet_final_version.pdf

Hello Maryjane1.

My Dad was cruelly taken by stage 4 metasic cancer which started in stomach and spead to liver. It devloped from a late diognosis after he looked anemic to his passing 3 months later. I cant begin to tell you how it affected me and my whole family as we tried so desperately to prolong his life. Doctors basically said there was nothing they could do other than pallative care. From that his health was a rapid decline with fatigue and intake of food. My Dad and us never gave up hope , his very last appointment with a doctor was when he come to terms with his illness. As we sat waiting to be seen  a lot of other patients were also to be seen by a specialist for cancer. My dad noticed a small boy aged approx 12  to 14 and he was very fatigued resting his head on his mams shoulder. At that point my dad turned to my mam and said iv had my life and im 71 and that poor boy is going through hell at his age. Doctors said my dad would not last through a course of chemo as his condition was the most aggressive cancer. Months prior he ailed nothing and had only small bouts of fatigue which we all thought was due to his stage 2 diabetes. This masked the real underlying condition. The macmillan nurses had performed their job to the highest order. My Dad passed away peacefully on October 5th at 2.20am with all my family beside him at home which is where he wanted to be throughout his illness. I still feel that more could have been done by doctors and specialist other than offer chemo. I tried desperately reserching any possible means of diet and various treatments as.it became clear it was too late. Probably the most key elements in your friends case is for them to be pain free, eat whatever they want, and reassure them day and night. God bless.x