I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. It is truly heartbreaking and I can imagine how awful that must be for you both. My thoughts are with you... have you got a good support system and people that are close with you know how you are feeling? I can’t take the pain away but I can be here to listen to it. We’re all going through something here... so if anything I hope talking with someone or relating to someone helps. 

All the best xx

Firstly, I just want to say I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Nothing can compare and must be so cruel for you and your daughter. It’s not fair and I am thinking of you. 

It’s nothing compared to your situation but I lost my boyfriend to blood cancer in 2017. We had no children but we had been together 8 years. He was 28 and we’d planned a future together. 

You will find your own individual way to get through this but a steady network of supportive friends are a god send and can help immensely. Also have you got anyone you can really trust, non-judgemental with anything you say? I’m sure you have and this person/people will be amazing for you as you can tell them anything about your experience or how you feel now without worrying about it. 

Anyway, you don’t have to but if you want to talk about it I’ll be here for you. 

Best wishes to you and your daughter xx

Thanks for your reply and kind words I'm just here have a very hard few few days I came home to bed today after the school drop iam just all over the place take care of yourself

Thanks for your reply and kind words I am just having a bad few days I don't see many people I just come home and go to bed after the school drop people don't want to know my pain now they say it's 2years now just move on there words I hate how can we move on when our world fall apart and the person we love is gone forever I'm also so sorry for your terrible loss of your young boyfriend this illness is so cruel take care of yourself and thanks again

Very sorry to read about the loss of your love xx 

Im here because my Mum died from cancer. I know this is completely different to the loss of a partner. I know what it is to love someone so much so I can’t imagine what you’re going through. 

Have you ever considered grief counselling, Soulmate? It can help.....sometimes if people get stuck at a particular stage of the process, it can help to speed things along and get things moving again. And so you can start to feel better xxx 

Have you ever tried it or thought about it? xxx 

That’s fair enough. Maybe you cope better without surrounding yourself by people. And if they say you need to be moving on, I know they think they mean well but it’s horrible isn’t?! They don’t know what it’s like and they shouldn’t be something so definite without experiencing what we have first hand. They don’t experience the “I can’t believe it’s actually happened” moments and what it’s like after those. 

For me I did not like the people who openly felt sorry for me. I couldn’t bear the thought of that. In my opinion, try and do the things you love, even if it’s getting back into a hobby (is there anything you particularly love doing?) or trying to eat a favourite thing regularly, or visiting a favourite shop sometimes. It won’t compare obviously, but it may remind you, however little there are still some good things in life.

And if you want to ask me anything at all go ahead :)

Good luck and take care