Dear Chrissie and you all, you are angels in disguise.
So they were the toughest 10 days and nights of my life, when at times i was so physically, emotionally and mentally drained and thought i could not do hospice at home which we all wanted.
After 10 days at home in a beautiful room that I made especially for my dad, my dad passed away with the family around with myself and my son holding his hand, talking to him and stroking his head.
I want to say Chrissie I cannot repay you enough for your advice.
Coming from a family that dont show emotion and rarely show up to any events, I had time to call them all into dads special room. I got them all round ( miracle on its own ). I encouraged them to talk, to hug during the passing of my father. We had relaxing radio music on all day, before, during and after. The enviroment was beautiful for my dad. I showed them all a calm loving relaxed atmosphere where approaching death was ok. We were all there for my dad. Before, during and after, we all sat round still holding his hand, drinking tea, crying, laughing and then chatting for 4 hours after. My children, brother, nieces and nephews realised the whole approaching death and afterwards, could be ok! My nephew came up the next day and said, "Wow, i always feared anything to do with death, but it was ok because we were all together." During the whole time Chrissie your words rang around my head. Show them there is control, love,that fear of unexpected was ok and i held them together ( and myself ) purely because of your first response to me. My dad had a fantastic passing onto the next life and for all of you here, i cannot repay you enough. Death is no longer feared in our family.
It was tough but also lovely and an honour to escort my dad to the spirit world and to be with my mum XXxxx
