Hi my name is Ali, I am 39 years old and have just been told I have terminal cancer, I thought I had a sore neck. After a few scans on my neck then a full body CT scan, my sore neck has now turned into Kidney Cancer, which seems to have also spread to my, Liver, lymph glands in the abdomen and the chest and my lungs. There are secondary¿s in the neck, base of the skull, ribs, pelvis and spine as well as the brain. They tell me that they can¿t do much to help me apart from some radiotherapy to help the pain in my neck then some pills which may help a bit but do have some side effects. Any whoooooo they have given me 1-3 years to get on and enjoy my life.
It¿s been two weeks now since I was told, and to be honest I can¿t believe how well I have taken this. I don¿t know if I¿m just trying to be strong for my partner and my family and friend¿s. I have not lost it for even a second. In no way am I in denial, I have read and looked up everything I can. I have told all my family, friends and work mates. I did find hard to tell my family and close friends. I'm still waiting for it to hit me like a train. I make jokes and laugh about it. I have tried to put myself in a venerable mentality but I just can¿t seem to break down. Maybe I¿m just not the type to fall apart but I¿m worried that maybe it will hit me like a tonne of bricks when I least expect it.
I¿d be interested to know if others have dealt with or known people who have reacted like me.