Hi bubbles hope you don't mind but I've noticed [@AlanM]‍ is looking for someone to talk to. I'll not say any more. Best wishes.. Billy 

Hi Alan

Thanks for replying

On monday i go for my last round of chemo for breast cancer then surgery etc.  not much more to say on that front but best be straight with you!

Not sure what your circumstances are.  I am single with two primary school children who are my world and am currently on sick leave from my full time job.

I have a picture of me (with my hair! which I miss so much, my oncologist says it will grow back, cannot wait!) but not sure how to send it.  

Let me know about you.

bubbles

Hi bubbles sorry I'm Billy if you go to top of your page thares a thick blue line open search insert AlanM and search you should go to his string. Don't worry my fault thought I'd try to get you too talking together. You can read about Alan on his string there. Best wishes.. Billy. 

Hi Bubbles xxx 

Im on twitter and I follow a fair few ladies on there who are open about their cancer journey and, also - some about the fact that they're single and looking for someone nice. They post up some pics here and there and they never seem to be short of offers and compliments  xx so it appears many people are quite comfortable dating someone who has had cancer or who is managing it still.  

I also met my partner on Twitter...there are some lovely chaps on there ;) I guess if you had a profile like the ladies I mention above, people will have advanced notice of your journey xxx My sister's BF is one of those gym/health people who has an online profile whereby he is quite open and honest about him having beaten testicular cancer several years ago. My sister didn't bat an eyelid and dated him without question (even though we had lost our parent to cancer, it certainly did not put her off) xxx

thak you so much citigirl1111.  its fair to say i am fairly straight forward, before cancer just worked full time in oxford (now on sick leave) and now I just look after my two primary school children and go through chemo (last round monday hurrah then the next bit etc etc)

Im not necessarily looking for romance just to chat to someone (I am 48) who will not leave as soon as I mention the cancer word.  To be fair I have never tried this before so maybe I am anticipating people will do this before I have any evidence ...

anyway

thank you for replying.

also how encouraging to hear about your sister and your family

i dont know how to take this forward but thank you for your message.xxx

Hello! 
I would highly recommend Twitter then :) Especially if you're looking for friends and company and...who knows where that will lead? :) 

If you set up a profile and then search for #breastcancer, let's say...you'll likely find some people who have experienced the same journey as you. You can then follow them and they may well follow back. You'll then pick up followers here and there as you engage with people/tweet. 
 

My profile is mostly around my love of music and I have met my partner on there from just sharing songs, following people who are also music people, commenting on posts that my fave bands have tweeted etc. Also, have a fair few friends I've met in person and enjoyed time with xxx defo worth looking into :) xxx

You don't look 48 btw lol xx 

Hi Bubbles,

My name is mud lol (its a song by the band Primus) and I am 50

In 2018 I lost a lung to cancer and stumbled across your post today.

I was wondering how you got on with your search and if you had any advice for someone new to 'getting back out there'?

I used to be a singer/guitar player so my career on that front came to a rapid halt.

Although I am reminded of my 'loss' everyday I am determined now to get back on with my life as best I can and want to forget as much as possible about what has gone before.

That being said, I appreciate it is a part of my life and want to connect with people, not to discuss and talk about cancer, but people who I dont have to explain myself to too much about what Ive been through and how it affects me on a daily basis.

Anyways, I hope you are getting on well and found what you were looking for!

Best Regards

Mud

Hi MynameisMud,

Thank you for you reply, interested to hear about your music career and your cancer journey.

Hope you are still able to enjoy music in some way?

I agree about trying to look forward instead of dwelling on the cancer too much (to the extent that is possible!)

To be honest I have not really got anywhere on the online matching thing - I cannot see anything specific for cancer (and if there was I wonder whether that would be a good thing or a counter productive thing, I don't know - in some ways it might mean you do not have to "explain" things but on the other hand you want to meet them for reasons other than your cancer!)

I have not heard of the band you mentioned - I will google it.

Take care

Bubbles

Hi shame your having trouble finding someone to talk to . These strings get people talking to other people quite a few times, I've made a few friends on forum with talking on other strings ,try it see what happens you never know.

Hope things are going well apart from chatting take care keep safe and sound.

Billy X