Seizure before death

Hi, kids dad has been bed bound for 3 weeks on Pallative care,  his had no Emery and I have to pull him up in the bed reposition him for comfort,

tonight he managed to sit up with legs over the bed, he asked for pants cause he was wet, then he flopped forward, very scary, I thought he was dying in my arms , he mad a rattle in his breathe, my friend came in , she manyti get me to lay him down , his eyes was rolled back and no couloir in his lips? Then he came round and wanted everyone to leave him, 

10 minutes later he was like nothing happened, he thought I was up really early it was midnight, now his sleepy 

is this the start of the end? How long now, the pain I felt when it was happening I thought he was dead, will this happen again?

the nurse said last week about a month, you can see dad by day a worsening, but this was so scary, kids see it too

i hate cancer 

anyone experithe same? 
 

thanks xx

  • Hello Crazyfamily, 

    I am so sorry to hear this. It really must be devastating for you to watch. It can be difficult to tell how long is left now as this will vary from one person to another and only a doctor will be able to tell you more about what to expect in his particular case. This type of seizure sounds frightening I can imagine it shocked you. There is a section on our website on the subject of 'dying with cancer' here which may be helpful for you to read as it contains information on what might happen in the last few weeks and days. 

    It is bound to be such an emotional time for you and having to watch all this can be very upsetting. Do talk to the nurse about what happened as I am sure the nurse will have a lot of experience of this and will be able to tell you more both in terms of what to expect but also how to cope mentally with this, as it can't be easy for you. 

    We also have a nurse helpline which you are welcome to ring at any time. The free number to call is 0808 800 40 40 and it is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm 

    We're thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator