secondary liver cancer where do i begin

Hi I'm Diane and I'm 72 and was diagnosed with secondary liver cancer. It has not quite sunk in yet i keep thinking is there something I done to cause this but at the end of the day it would probably happen anyway even if I did change my life style. I recently told my family when we went out to dinner in a resturant and i know definently the wrong place but I didn't know when or where I would tell them. I was quite blunt and said look I got some bad news from my doctor I have cancer been diagnosed recently. You should of seen there jaws drop to the floor. But there just now coming round that i have cancer there so supportive and my grandchildren are just amazing they really are. So chemo starts tomorrow and I'm just worried about the side effects and how I will be on my own as my husband passed away a few years ago. Is there anyone that's been there that can help me understand what might happen -Diane x

 

  • Hi Diane ​ I did not accept my diagnosis in fact part of me still thinks they made a mistake. Try sorting things ready for tomorrow what you are wearing, books or magazines to take. I don't know how long your treatment will last but I used to take plenty of water & snacks. Notepad & pen to write down any instructions or recommendations from the nurses. At Christies in Manchester they have free wi-fi so hubby took his tablet. Think of any questions you may have & note them down. As to the crying there will be plenty of that so don't worry about it just let the tears flow. Good luck

  • hi river56 yes im going to take my ipad with me and watch some cooking channels i love watching that well im going to the beatson in glasgow next to gartenaval hospital i was just think about that let the tears flow i am having chemo for as long the cancer is there and if it gets worse surgery will need to be taken as an option 

  • Hi Diane, so very sorry to read your post and I am sending all my best thoughts and wishes to you, along with a hug or three! I am sorry, I don't know anything about liver cancer, but scared and panic stricken I can identify and sympathise with! I have to see the consultant tomorrow to see what treatment I will have for breast cancer and I am in such a spin it feels as if I am on the outside watching a horror movie or something.  The world is working normally and I am going crazy......   The words of support I have been given on this site have helped enormously, just to know I am not alone - we are going through, or have been through it all before.   I just wanted you to know people are thinking of you.  Best wishes for tomorrow Diane, and let us know how it goes xx

  • thank you so much purplelily your right it is like a horror film i have always seen people around me die of it no one in my family have survived cancer so im hoping even at this age i can still kick its butt !! i will let you tomorrow on this page here. i think from now on i will not be sleeping to good if i do get very ill i would need to take into consideration maybe to move in with one of my kids but hopefully that will never happen xx

  • No one in my family has survived either, but that sure doesn't mean it is going to get the better of me, or you either! You will 'kick it's butt' - and so will I! There is too much going on to miss out on......I have faith in the belief that once the treatment is underway I will have a more positive attitude.   The nights bother me cos I am not sleeping at all well, but I listen to the radio, or get up and read a book - anything to distract me for a while.

    will be thinking about you tomorrow, very best wishes and looking forward to hearing how you get on. Hugs xx

  • i think i will need sleeping tablets for now luckily tonight i feel tired but you know i will possibly still wake up at 3am i need to hope that we both come out of this black hole and into the sunshine where we can live our lives again i read you had breast cancer im so sorry my mother had breast cancer i will contact you tomorrow on here and let you know how i was feeling and how it went hugs god bless xx

  • Hi Diane ...... easier said than done I know, but please take a deep breath and calm down.  I don't know what you have been reading about chemotherapy to frighten you so much but I think you are going to find that you have been over-worrying yourself.  I have breast cancer that has spread to my liver amongst other places and have been on chemotherapy for around 3.5yrs now.  There are side effects, mainly tiredness but you must follow what your body tells you and rest when needed. The other effects I have had are constipation or diarrhoea, achy joints, a runny nose and eyes.  These are all controllable with drugs and painkillers but you must be totally honest with the medical team involved so they can prescribe you the drugs you need to counteract the side effects.  I have also had liver surgery and ablation of two liver tumours which is maybe something you could consider and ask your consultant about - I am happy to fill you in on details should that be an option you think of pursuing.  I will be thinking of you tomorrow  and remember you are in good hands with a team of nurses who know exactly what they are doing!  Cry if you need to but I honestly think you will be surprised at how well it goes. Much love x

    Ps. ASk your GP to prescribe you some sleeping tablets so you can get a good night's sleep Diane, you need not take them every day if you don't want to but you need to rest x

  • thank you very much i will tell tel you tomorrow xx hugs 

  • Hi Diane you seem to be getting worked up so take a breath and remember you are going to be in the hands of professionals. One of the side effects I had was that the antihistamine I had as a premed actually cleared my sinusitis - so not all bad ! I always say that telling someone not to worry is like telling a fish not to swim, impossible it's in our nature. It's how we deal with it that helps. Try to distract yourself, plan treats for yourself and days out with the family.

  • hello yes i am going to be doing a lot with the grandchildren had them on the phone we have planned a day out on wednsday i am being calm now had a cup of tea and watching tv feeling good right now chilled out is how i feel and i will take a nice hot bath and just relax