Hi there,
I’m looking for advice- my mums is 53 and has been diagnosed with secondary cancer in her liver. I am pregnant with her first grandchild and we have been told she may only have weeks to live. I can’t accept this. We have been failed by the health system throughout this whole process and I don’t want to just leave her care in their hands.
Apparently there is no point doing a biopsy and there is no time and won’t help anything. I think they were going to suggest no treatment as her bilirubin levels are so high and her liver is so contaminated with cancer. What confuses me most is that apart from being yellow and feeling a bit tight across the chest from her enlarged liver, she feels ok! How can I accept the news of ”just a few weeks” when she looks and seems so strong?!
I am concerned that with the lack of funds and resources available to the NHS, we have become another number, someone who isn’t worth trying to save as there are other patients with less serious cases. She wasn’t even offered a biopsy as they said there was no point. The last oncologist we saw couldn’t believe how well my mum looked and said that her CT scan was completely different to the person standing in front of her. She kindly joined our fight and suggested my mum try chemo as she had nothing else to lose. She is beginning paciltaxel chemo on Monday at a low dose to give in their words “maybe a few extra weeks”.
What else can I do? I feel so helpless. Has anyone else had any similar situations and beat the odds? We want to fight and I feel overwhelmed with all the different things you read online. Has anyone else tried to see a consultant elsewhere and get second opinions? I just don’t want to delay the current treatment on offer. Why is no one else in the rush that we are? Is this not considered an emergency? Shall I try driving to the hospital that specialise in cancer just to see if they can suggest anything else? This has all happened in 2 weeks and it’s the biggest heartbreak
Any help or advice would be amazing.
Thanks,
Tayla