Hi dont really know where to start and i apologise if it makes me sound selfish. My dad has mesothelioma diagnosed this time last year, in the last few weeks he has really gone down hill and the chemo he had this week to help with the pain has left him not being able to even hold water down, He is saying that he just wants to die and doesnt want any more treatment. I know that this has to be his choice and both myself and my mum should back his decision. But until this all reared its ugly head my dad was my mums primary carer she has a really bad heart and terrible pain in her spine, leaving her housebound unless she is taken out in her wheelchair. So now that will be down to me, which in its self i am prepared for as both of them have been fantastic parents and i wouldnt see them having to go into a home. But it means moving from my home with my husband and daughter to live at their house (which was my childhood home) I feel that i am giving my home up and going back to live with my mum, it will be her house her rules etc and i have not lived at home for nearly 30 years. I know this sounds awful but the house isnt really big enough for us all without living on top of each other, so my suggestion was to sell both and buy a home that has an annex that we could all live in without being on top of each other. But then the question of my brothers inheritance comes into it, they seem to think that if we do that when my dad goes and then in time my mum i will have to either remortgage to buy him out or sell and move to a smaller house again. Has anyone else gone through this upheaval ontop of all the stress of dad and have any suggestions on the best way to go. Sorry to ramble on but feel like I am on my own with my head exploding
