Scared for my dad

Today I took my dad to the local a+e for ct scans for suspected kidney stones, this was the second time this week we went as his pain was getting worse, only to receive the news that it isn’t kidney stones and is in fact  bowel cancer that has spread to his liver, he has been referred to the nearest cancer ward but his first appointment is not for another 2 weeks so we are all sitting waiting to find out if he can be treated or how aggressive the cancer is, this has come out of no where for us, it wasn’t even a thought in our minds, he has always been so healthy and rarely sick and he is only 58, now I’m imaging watching this amazing man disappear in front of me and I don’t know what to do, I am a Mum to 2 special needs kids so I’m trying to keep everything hidden and be strong but it’s almost impossible as I don’t know the first thing about his chances of beating it or if there even is a chance of that.. Any advice 

  • Yes. Don't keep things hidden. Get everything out in the open, draw the sting. Cry when you need to and explain why to people if you need to.

    You can help your dad by being his advocate, helping him compose a list of questions you all might have.

    Don't be afraid to share your feelings/emotions with him. Cry with him if necessary and don't forget to smile and laugh with him.

    Most important of all, don't 'try to be strong'. All anybody needs is to be sufficient to the moment.

    Just deal with the moment that's in front of you. Don't think about tomorrow until you get to tomorrow and again, deal with each moment as it arrives.

     

    Best Regards Deeann

    Taff