Hi everyone,
A few months ago, I received the news that I had a pelvic recurrence and offered palliative care. (If you look at my profile you'll see that I've had lots of surgeries along the way, so this news didn't really surprise me too much.)
I explained this to my family who were naturally, very upset. My latest scan results have shown that I now have a recurrence at the primary site, more lung nodules (I knew I had some from previous scans) and a recurrence in my liver.
Up to now, I have not told my family this latest news, partly because I still look fine and apart from tiredness, I'm managing ok and my GP and pain nurse are helping to fine tune my pain relief.
So, after a rambling bit of background, my question is, am I right or wrong to keep this from them? In my view, my prognosis is still the same, but in all probability, timescales are likely to be shorter. It was the pain nurse who raised something about giving them time to do and say the things they might want to, if they knew I possibly had less time.
My family are very 'closed' and we've never had any 'emotional' conversations about my illness - tending to keep it all to the facts and treatments etc. My brother and partner are the two who know the most and with whom I share the most, and I don't want other close family to think I've been keeping things from them, even though I'm doing it to protect them!
I'd welcome any thoughts on this please. I'm guessing there will be mixed views, but at least I may be better placed to decide what to do next.
Thanks for reading my ramble! ;) Jo xx