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11 Sep 2015 14:10

I have just returned from the remembrance service of a friend. My late husband was his best man~(his wife our bridesmaid) and I paid my respects for us both.  Emotions are understandably running high but this poem was read out and I felt the need to place it here.

You can shed tears that he is gone, or you can smile because he  has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray he will come back, or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can't see him. or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can turn  your back on tomorrow and live for yesterday, or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he is gone, or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back, or  you can do what he would want: Smile,open your eyes, love and go on.

Rest peacefully Dave, you will be missed.

(lost to cancer 2.9.15)


11 Sep 2015 15:04 in response to jules54

Hi Jules,

Thanks for posting that; it really says it all

Take care, best wishes, Brian.


11 Sep 2015 15:20 in response to jules54

Hi Jules

so sorry to read this sad news, but wow beautiful poem and indeed as Brian says it really does say it all. Thanks for sharing

JB x 


11 Sep 2015 17:57 in response to jules54

Hi Jules,  what a beautiful poem. It has understandably been a very emotional day for you all, some tears but hopefully also some smiles at the lovely memories you share. Take care   Sue x


11 Sep 2015 18:43 in response to jules54

That brought tears.. lovely may he rest in peace 


11 Sep 2015 21:14 in response to jules54


I'm sorry you have lost a good friend,

and thank you for posting that, my goodness that poem runs deep.



12 Sep 2015 13:08 in response to kimchoson

Thanks everyone. Jules x


6 Oct 2015 15:47 in response to jules54

Just found this post.  What a lovely poem.  Thank you so much for sharing it.
Kathy xx


6 Oct 2015 17:02 in response to KathyS


It just says it all really.

Thinking of you and sending hugs. Jules xx


18 Dec 2015 17:37 in response to jules54

My own thoughts put in writing as Christmas draws near.

I am thinking of you today, as always; it's just that time of year,

When families miss their loved ones more and memories are held so dear.

I thank you for the feelings that I carry in my heart and

Will raise a toast this festive season, so that you are still there in part.

Soon, I will stand under your resting tree,

Close my eyes and ponder.

Knowing you are loved and missed in equal measure.

Left with memories, so much to treasure.


18 Dec 2015 18:07 in response to jules54

Oh Jules,

That was really beautiful. Written from the heart Thank you for posting that, Brian.


18 Dec 2015 18:45 in response to jules54

Thank you Jules what a wonderful post. Kim


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19 Dec 2015 06:55 in response to jules54

Just beautiful...


19 Dec 2015 14:48 in response to susu

Brian, Kim, Deano and Sue,

Thank you all for your responses and for being in my 'virtual world'.  Forum friendship is something very special. Wishing everyone a peaceful festive season.  Hugs  Jules x