Earlier this year my 34 year old girlfriend was diagnosed with Stage 1 Breast Cancer. Since that time I have been there for her throughout all of the chemo treatments and her recent surgery. It's been a tough year and we have both found it hard with all of the changes including lack of intimacy but last week she was told that following a double mastecomy she was now clear of any signs of cancer, however the genetic mutation test came back inconclusive which I know plays heavily on her mind.
Obviously I was releived at the good news and even though I know that there is still a lot of physcial and emotional recovery left to go through. I was hoping that this news would allow us to start planning for the future and slowly reconnect with each other.
Last week however she told me that she couldn't cope with the pressure of a relationship right now and even though she loves me, she doesn't want me to waste my life waiting for her whilst she tries to get her life back to normal and decide what this experience all means. She has offered to stay friends and carry on spending time together, because she doesn't want to lose me from her life but I would be lying if I said I didn't want to carry on a relationship.
To say I'm devastated is an understatement, we have been together for quite a long time and up to a few months ago everything was perfect and we were planning a future together so this has really hit me hard. I can't comprehend what she has gone through and I have told her that I'm happy for her to have some space whilst she figures things out but I have too many feelings for her just to be friends. Even after the surgery and hair loss I still think she looks as gorgeous as ever and wouldn't be able to pretend otherwise.
I'm posting here in the hope that someone has been through the same experience and can help me understand what she is going through and what I should do next?