Hi

So sorry to hear your sad news , Youll be on pins for a while , I was and you’ll just need to accept it unfortunately, Your emotions will hit peaks and troughs from hour to hour day to day . It’s a journey none of us should go through . Take comfort that your helping your Dad , maybe try more treats like soft ice cream , rice puddings , trifles , full fat yogurts - take meaty soups to him in a flask but put them through a blender etc - also ses if you can get a water bottle that has a tube attached , it’s like a straw so he can sip away at fluids , you find them on medical type web sites . Your main aim is to keep Dad comfortable and keep yourself from a melt down , cry when you need to cry , scream when you need to scream as it all helps . Tell Dad what you’ve been doing , how the rest of the family are , your plans for the house - anything just make conversation even if Dads asleep . 

When the time comes accept it , we don’t like what is going on but remember Dad is no longer in the state that worries you so much . 

Take care and keep strong .

Regards

Phil

Thanks very much for your reply he is in hospital now with a lot ov issues the circulationisint going round the brain properly and he's got gallstones on top ov the cancer.... He's no longer able to talk properly but can hear which is good.... And also on top ov everything his kidneys are not working properly.. All very sad at mo just taking day by day at min hes on a fluid drip antibiotic drip he's got an infection but he can't fight the infection as he's to weak but all we can do it take one day at a time... Thanks once again

Hi Caz

He's in the right place , he’s got 24 hr support - spend as much time with him as you can , see if someone else can share spending time with Dad so he has family during most of the day and into the night . Thinking of you at this difficult time .

Regards

Phil