Hi there, not sure if I’m posting in the right place but could do with some advice. My partner’s father has recently been diagnosed with what seems to be a very fast spreading and aggressive form of cancer. I don’t know all the details but he was fine at Christmas and it’s all moving terribly quickly(it’s been a couple of months since he started to feel unwell) He was admitted to hospital a month ago while they did further tests and we found out it had spread from his lungs to his bones, liver, lymph, basically everywhere. He can’t swallow and is on a feeding tube and a drip. They were discussing chemo as surgery wasn’t possible but we have just got the bad news that they can’t even progress with chemo, he has been given 2-3 months max. They are focusing on bringing him home so he can be more comfortable there. It’s absolutely heartbreaking for my partner and his family, who I am quite close to, I’m devastated too and know I need to be there for them but with this shocking diagnosis I’m just at a loss for words. Obviously I have said the usual ‘let me know if I can help in any way’ but I just don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing and what to expect. I know grief is a very personal thing and no two people will react in the same way but any advice on how to prepare, what to say, how to deal with the coming weeks would be a great help. My partner and I have been together almost two years and have a great relationship, and so far he has taken the bad news very well. I want to be there for him and his family and support them however I can, it hurts me so much that they are going through this.
