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Michele1971
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Hi, my mum has only just been diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer. They have said that chemotherapy is not an option and its nots operable, They have given her weeks not months to live and I am devastated. My question is how can they give a diagnosis and so quickly tell me it's end of life when we haven't even had any treatments she's only 69 was still working till 2 months ago. 

Am I to push for chemo and radiotherapy, or just accept this and make her last few weeks pain free, I feel that I need to do something to give her hope and fight this.

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    That's a real bombshell. Terrible news. I'm not a medic, but know that pancreatic cancer is a really nasty cancer, especially if it has spread. You could always push, or even seek a second opinion, but unfortunately the specialists are usually right. x Harry  

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    I am walking a similar journey as you at the moment and the shock, anger and disbelief is immense. It Sucks! My Mum has not had any treatment, which has allowed us to do things together without wasting hours in hospital/ appointments, doctors etc. She has had chemo before many years ago and did not want to feel like that again. Now is the time to think of quality as against quantity in terms of time. When my Mum told the consultant that she didn't want any treatment his reply was "Medicine is not always the answer". What ever your Mum decides try and back her all the way. Sending you a warm hug.
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    So sorry your having to deal with this ... it must feel like sinking sand ... Michelle is so right ... if it is going to not help her having cemo, you have a little time to make more memories ... my mum went suddenly with heart attach... I never got the chance to say good bye, or l love you one more time, or hold her hand , or tell her just how much she was loved by her grand sons who were 7 & 16 at the time .... she was our best friend and what l would give for one more day ... 

    you have that chance, to cry, hug, and tell each other all the things your heart wants to say ... 

    wer 27 years down the line, and she still in our hearts, she lives there, and my boys still put pictures of her on face book ... there’s no easy way, but if you can walk this path with her, holding her hand ... l bet she’s so proud of you ... and wouldn’t want to see you suffer so ... 

    im saying this coz I’m having my cancer journey... and I’m not having any treatment ... l had a mastectomy, but my bones are weak and I don’t think they can take more ... I’ve told my son and he’s supporting me all the way ... wer making every day count and he’s walking with me ... and I’ve told him he can miss me, but I’d better look down and see him having fun with his children and giving them hugs from their nanny ... cancer takes away so much and it likes to see us beaten down ... every time we smile and make the most of what time we have ... I’m poking cancer in the eye .. I’m 63 ... 

    there will be so many emotions you will go through ... it’s all part of loving someone so much ... I found a saying that has seen me through .. don’t cry because you loose someone... smile because you had them in your life ... big big hug ... thinking of you Chrisie ️Xx

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    Thinking of you too ... hope you pack as many memories as possible... Anne your amazing ... what a lovely post .... big hug

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    Chrisie, And a big hug for you too. You have a beautiful soul. xx

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