Sorry to hear about your husband. My mum died this morning having been diagnosed just 4 weeks ago with advanced pancreatic cancer. It had spread to many places and was very aggressive. You may not want to hear this, but last Thursday she wasn't too bad, made an appointment with the hospital hairdresser for Saturday, come Saturday she was bedridden and in a lot of pain, still able to hold a conversation just, smile at her granddaughter... By Tuesday she was barely coherent and just groaning in pain, very agitated. I was there when she died and for her it wasn't a case of passing peacefully in her sleep. It will haunt me forever. I don't wish to scare you, I'm sure everyone is different and I should point out after 4 weeks in hospital they hadn't actually sorted out proper pain relief. They were going to fit a pump thing to give constant relief today. I don't know why it took them so long, but the cancer did spread quickly and a lot in those 4 weeks.

I debated whether to type this but there's no sugar coating cancer. As you have a few months I would hope they will be better prepared with the pain relief and it will be more peaceful.

Hi my mum died 3 weeks ago of this and it was in her lungs but i have to say she was only diagonosed 6 days before she died and her only symptom was jaundice as her bile duct was blocked. As she was in no pain she just passed peacfully in my arms. My father in law had the same 5yrs ago and symptoms quite similar to your husbands. Just be there for him and im sure they will be able to control the pain. I know when its our loved ones who are suffering we all ask the same thing "why us" 

God Bless you both.

Julie x

Did your mom lose strenght and stop eating or anything? My husband just has a hard time getting around. He is in alittle pain. Yes it is hard. Our children don't live close by so they try to come on weekends when possible. I am so sorry about your mom. Life is so difficult sometimes. I have a strong faith and a great family and church so I know we will make it thru this but it doesn't make it any easier. Thank you so much for posting. Be blessed.