Hi kirstie,

I'm in exactly the same situation. My mil has been fitted with a feeding tube through her stomach though. She was diagnosed 11 Oct. She too had diarrhoea for over a week. It's now been two weeks since that stopped. Since then she has been bed bound except for toilet twice a day but no bowel movement. Last monday she was really bad and we thought we was going to lose her shes hallucinating and delusional and sometimes wasnt making sense, she was sleeping a lot and when she woke she rarely spoke a couple of words. We were told she is actively dying, her body is shutting down and I'm to reduce her feed, but since Friday/Saturday she has perked up, she still sleeps a lot, hallucinates and gets confused but sometimes when shes awake (only for a few minutes max) shes more talkative and makes more sense. Obviously we know shes not getting better. And I have read that this sometimes happens and its called death rally, (people will become more alert etc within a few days before death). At the moment it's a cruel waiting game but all I can do is keep her comfortable, and out of pain. I too am like you a feel a need to know what's happening and when and know facts etc. Especially as I'm my mil's carer, I too feel like I have to be the strong one, but sometimes it's hard. I havent long lost my own parents 3 years apart, so I know exactly how you feel. 

Sorry I cant give you a time frame as I'm still waiting myself. 

Take care and remember to look after yourself aswell.

Lesley