It sounds like you have accepted  the situation  and that is admirable I think sometimes its easier for the person with the cancer to cope than our families enjoy the time you have and my best wishes to a brave lady

Hello Denise1977,

                          in all my life so far l have wondered if l have ever encountered normal. Smart,smarmy,super,weird,wicked,wacky,outgoing,outrageous,out of order,cute,cuddly,cocksure,l have come across all of these and l could keep going for ever,but normal for me has been hard to spot.So l have to say that l am not sure that l think you or your views are normal,but uniquely special.l hope we meet on the other side to discuss normality in more depth,after all l will not be that far away from joining you.l should not have too much difficulty in picking you out,l will be sure to look out for the one laughing,

             sending you a moment of happiness,

                                                                  David

Thank you.i don't care what treatment throw at me.just came to the stage I dont care.So far i walk,I work,I am independent and want to keep like this.just take it now if the treatment working working if not not.its in my hands and no doctor will dictate what to do.

I am 43 but I feel like a burden for everybody.in the end I am glad its in the brain it will be fast.dont want be connected to the morphine or other tubes.this is my imagination of dying.althouh offer treatment i was pushed to do it.

Thank you.even I am going to have treatment i dont think doctors wants help me.anyway I hope 10 radio finishes and leave me alone.i might be asked to be discharder.i don't want any help or hospice.I want be at home and with my husband not strangers.

This is my plan

Hi Denise, 

Can understand what your saying and we'll done for being sure what you want to do. 

I was diagnosed Feb 2016 prostate gone to lymph nodes, spine, ribs, pelvis and a lung was classed as palliative care, i was working till i had to retire to look after my disabled wife she needs 24 /7 care she has Alzheimers and parkinsons plus other problems I'm her official carer, i had to promise her that i would look after her before she'd marry me she's nearly 14years older than me that was nearly 50 years ago, so I'm keeping positive and fighting taking any treatment offered and so far done good, my uninvited guest gives me a bite now and again but I'm still fighting and keeping positive, good luck with whatever you choose we all lead independent lives and can choose what we do with it.

Love Billy xxx 

Hi Denise - am not medically qualified but I do know that depending on where brain mets are this reaction could be to do with that as emotional responses can be affected by brain issues, though not necessarily so. Could just be your own rational response to situation.

I wish you well and hope you get to stay at home with your family in the way you wish. You have been through a lot. Totally understand your desire to take hold of the rudder and steer your own way.

Please don't see yourself as a burden. Definitely not a burden.

Laughter releases endorphins. I don't think it can ever be bad. And yes I was once with someone who given an awful diagnosis (brain issues) laughed all the way home. Took me a good while to understand. Then I got it. Really good coping mechanism even if down to brain issue. Besides as David reflects, what on earth is normal? 

thank you billy.i couldt do what you are doing.I want to enjoy myself and i dont think spending time in the waiting room and for ct scans its not i want to spend my time.To be talked about pictures i dont undrstand its pointless.one is shrinkinking the other one is growing.so what?i "love" peple using words figting i dont have to do anything.After more then 1 year had enough.wish people just leave me alone

Thats when i was laughing yesterday to the nurse.I have nothing to loose?brain or not brain radiotherapy i am will be dead soon.so i will go outvcobvid or not covid 19 cant be any worse.I am going to enjoy myself.

Hi Denise 

I myself have advanced stage 4 kidney cancer and was diagnosed 19 months ago. I have been quite ill in the past but now although I feel great a CT scan reveals the cancer has grown in my lungs. I've been angry and upset in the past but like you now I just want to laugh. Ive had all the emotions of worrying I'm dying and angry the cancer got so bad but I feel happy at the moment and I don't know how a clinal trial I'm hoping to start soon will make any difference but I'm feeling positive. Are there other options available? You have age on your side. I'm 48 by the way.

Hello happy days I will be 44 and I am fighting this rotten disease since 2017cfirst curable then stage 4.now is stable in my lungs but since October in my brain.so much I am on the chemo pills but waiting for transferring for new hosp where they will be willing to do something.i am feeling positive because apart of the angry news on the hospital I am happy and don't show my doctors they break me.