Hi there ... bless ya ... there's no time limit on grief... some fall into it even befor a loved one goes .. some years down the line ... and lots inbetween ... maybe you need to feel those feelings now, say to your heart, it's o.k to feel like this ... give yourself room to admit your just human and forgive your self and don't think because of time, it gets easier ... infect it's harder on you thinking people don't understand why you feel like this, years down the road ... and we never stop missing them ... 

You've come to the right place here ... we all know that heavy heart of feelings, McMillan may be able to help with counselling. . Give them a ring if you need a shoulder to lean on ... and wer here whenever or however your feeling ... you've made the first step by reaching out ..

Welcome to the forum Pookie although I'm sorry for the reason you are posting.

I can see Chriss has given you some lovely words of support and advice but I just wanted to stop by to share some information with you from our website about coping with grief and put you in touch with cruse bereavement as they may be able to help you work through your grief as well.

It will be tough but we are here for you and will help you through this.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello Pookie. As Chrissie says grief can be different for all of us.  It can come and go, suddenly return after years and come out of nowhere when least expected.  If your mum's funeral was a burial you might find it helpful to go to the grave and talk to her there.   If not, you could create a special space with some things of your mums there and take time to sit and think about your mum and talk about what you are feeling.  As Chrissie says, MacMillan Cancer Support (or Cruse Bereavement Care) are good people to ring,  Their Freefone telephone numbers are 0808 808 0000 and 0808 808 1677 respectively.  They fully understand how grief can come and go sometimes long after the loss of a loved one.   Grief can be difficult and painful no matter when it hits so be kind to yourself.  I hope you have sympathetic family and friends also.