i hate to say this when I love my mum so much but I don’t think I can cope watching her deteriorate. In the last 10 yrs we lost my brothers to MND and my dad to bowel cancer, both of those times my mum and me coped together. This time it is her, I live over 200 miles away and am visiting every few weeks. When I am here I get so frustrated watching the active excuses she has to avoid eating, ( last night as I dished up dinner she decided she needed the loo and by time she came back her dinner was cold and she wouldn’t let me re heat it.
i am not making a battle out of food but when she has a bag of crisps 15 mins before the meal I know she won’t eat anything nutritious, and I also know this action will make her more ill more quickly with absolutely no nutrients going into her body. This will make her last few months much harder for all of us.
I don’t think I can bear this and really do t know how I can go through this feeling so alone ( I am not alone I have my husband and close friends but don’t feel I can say everything I want to around them)
i feel like a selfish child and an awful person when I sometimes want this to hurry up and be over so she is out of her situation and I can try and rebuild my life. There I said it and I feel so much worse for putting it down in print.