Hello Pittster, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis and can understand how very worried and afraid you are. A cancer diagnosis is always a shock and really turns your world upside down. Is he having treatment or surgery? I don't have any coping strategies for your situation but there is a section on this site under About Cancer that might help you. I've just been diagnosed with invasive breast cancer, don't know the stage yet, and have been coping by keeping busy, spending time with family, working, and singing/listening to music. I'm also walking half an hour every day to get myself in the best shape possible before my treatment begins and I'm sure the exercise is helping me cope too. My faith is a big part of coping with anxiety. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers to find a way to deal with this devastating news. Feel free to stay in touch or message me. We are all here for each other on this forum. Stay strong. Amy xx

So sorry you are having to deal with all this

Sounds like everything has been an enormous shock

Is there a Maggies centre at the hospital your husband is in where you can drop in for a chat 

if there is no centre near you maybe you could telephone them, here is the link for the national charity in case you don't have it already

https://www.maggies.org

it's natural to cry and feel anxious when something like this happens, that's why Maggies offer support not just to cancer sufferers but friends and family too, they can help you find coping strategies

not eating or sleeping if it persists for more than a couple of days is something you do need to tell your GP, they may recommend something to help get you through this difficult period, you don't want to become more and more ill yourself too

xx

Thank you for replying- I will take a look to see if there is one. X

Thank you Amy, to take the time to reply when you too are going through such a torrid time is much appreciated. I know I need to process the shock and utter devastation I feel. My daughter has taken me walking which I know will help but my insides start screaming to get back home. Thry can't offer any surgery as it's spread. We are waiting for them to discuss him at their MDT and options. Unfortunately the operation to put a stoma in has inflamed his appendix so they are trialling antibiotics to see if they can stop the need for further abdominal surgery as they say that would set him back for any chemotherapy. So we are in a state of anxiety with it all. But I want to wish you all the best with your treatments and thank you for taking the time to reply. X