I was diagnosed with cancer in June 2019 when I had a biopsy in the stomach area. It was found to be secondary and I was told the ct scan didn't show anything. In August I was told by my allotted oncologist that I had terminal cancer with 6 months to live if I didn't have treatment. This came as a big shock to both my daughter and I especially the fact that nobody could see the primary source. Mentally this has been hard to handle and my life has totally changed from being very active to having no energy and not driving. Since my oncologist informed me I would have six months I can't see past Christmas. The local hospice has been very helpful along with Macmillan support.
Hi there ...
So sorry your going through this heartbraking time from that diagnosis... personally I wouldn't want to know, because then it's like that's all we can see .. so just give up ... that's what I'd feel like ..
But comming on here, I've chatted to lots who have had that same diagnosis... and gone way past .. it seems those ones who can live in the day.. make as many memories as possible in whatever time we have, seem to be able to fight it a bit better .. that's what I've done sinse l was diagnosed with a grade three cancer .. woke up .. looked out at the sky .. and said "yep , still here" and everyday I try to find something to make me smile .. anything ...
Cancer wants us to give up, lay face down and never get up .. but don't let it .. take that daughter of yours and give her as many good memories as possible... chat, reminis , look at old photos ... they all tell a story ... tell her what she means to you ... leave nothing unsaid... share tears and admit your both scared.. walk this path together for as long as your given, don't waste one day ... and then you can stick two fingers up to cancer... don't let it spoil the time you do have ...
No one knows if they have tomorrow...cancer or healthy ... anyone can go without warning .. so stop that calender in your head , marking off the days .. instead live them .. leave her memories of a dad/ mum that never gave up ... Chrissie xx
Thanks for your inspiring reply. I'm coming round to taking each day as it comes and making memories with my daughter. After a recent consultation with my oncologist she said that I should treat cancer as a long term illness such as diabetes or arthritis. Medication taken to control not cure and give quality of life.
Thanks again for your encouragement - discussions with other people who are going through the same feelings really gives a different aspect to coping with cancer.
Hi Julia just to give you some idea, i was diagnosed Feb 2016 with prostate cancer which has gone to lymph nodes, spine, ribs, pelvis and a lung stage 4 uncurable i just live with my uninvited guest I'm living a normal life no problems, so can you. Best wishes... Billy
Thanks for giving me hope.it sounds like your medication has kept your cancer under control. Its good to know about other peoples experiences coping with terminal diagnosis. It may be terminal but nobody knows when. Day by day life is the norm when you have cancer and somehow it makes you appreciate everything,you do. Thanks for your encouragement.