Hi all! 
 

I am newly diagnosed with stage 4 cervical. I am generally positive and determined to fight as I've been reading a lot of your stories about people who beat or manage stage 4 cancers so this isn't about the diagnosis. Please don't rely with  sorries or anything like that. They don't help me at all - I prefer having strength and positivity around me :) 

anyway the point is- I had been in a really bad relationship for years before this and then I ket someone amazing. We have only been together for a couple of months when this happened. My cancer was diagnosed when my kidneys failed and he literally was here and doing everything I needed. He practically moved into my house to look after my puppy and was at the hospital every single day. He doesn't look at me like I'm ill and is convinced he is going to help get me thru it. he told my mom I was so beautiful even with tubes in my mouth and told me it was me and him against the world. 
 

Three weeks later I'm finally discharged bjt over the last week I feel he's been off and distant. He stayed with me a couple of days when I got hone but then went to his last night for a few nights at home as he hasn't had his own time since before I was taken in to hospital. I understand completely. He looks exhausted. But I tried to talk to him about how ok feel and he just refused. I don't know if I have pushed him too far with my constant need for reassurance at the moment or if he really is just tired. But he wouldn't give me a straight answer. I can tell things are different with him at the moment but not knowing him for that long before my diagnosis I don't know if this is normal for him or what. 
 

I really don't want to lose him because I genuinely felt I'd met someone special before all this happened and he has completely held me up through this. i have talked to him about this but I feel like every time I bring it up I push him a little bit further away. 
 

Any advice for new relationships with a cancer diagnosis?