Hi there ... your right it is pants and a lot more words, we're not allowed to say ... and bless ya ... there is quite a few of us breast cancer ladies on here and going through chemo too ... they have up and down days but they are a great bunch and if you look on rilleyroo so  thread there's about 5 ladies there, that will give you moral support and you can read what they are doing ... 

I'm nearly 5 months post mastectomy... so I'm here on this journey too ... it's a bumpy rollercoaster ride and you have to hold on tight ... Hopefully one of our breast cancer buddies will be on soon too ... so sending you a caring hug .... chrisie xx 

Hi there Maria... trust me, family and friends can get you through ... I let my son and daughter in law and my amazing nieces (who I love like daughters) and they jumped on this rollercoaster with me ... I've always kept things to myself before,  but oh my, I'm so glad I let them in ... every appointment, every scan, and the op ... they were there ... and because it made me realise just how much love and support I had, it made me ready to take on this thing inside my breast, that I didn't invite ... 

I had a Grade 3 her 2 ... which is large and advanced ... but my lymph node was clear, and the lump came back " low risk" so I think someone up there is batting in my corner ... so it's not all doom and gloom every time ... I'm here 5 months down the road, writing to you ... but we have all been in that scary stage of waiting ... if you can live in the day .. don't look to far ahead .. try not to do the "what ifs" and take each problem as and when they come up ... that was the advice I got from my daughter in law ... 

My partner lost his wife 16 years ago to breast cancer, so I make sure he's not involved too much, and my positivity gets him through fine ... I was more worried about him then him me ... coz I just live a day at a time, and every day is a little mirical ... so my hunny ... hold on tight ... keep your family in the loop as they will be as scared as you ... but if you cope, they will ... I'm always here if you need support or have a good day, or a low one ... you can always private message me if you like... I'm on here most days ...

So dont forget your not alone on this rollercoaster... there's lots of us just sitting in the next carrage.. big hug ... chrisie xx

Hi Maria. 

Just thought I’d drop by to say Hi. 

Thankyou it' so re assuring reading your posts I have always been the strong one doing everything for myself I nursed my ex husband with cancer and took time out of my career to care for him he is still here and well just decided to cheat on me but that' history and we move on. I have a wonderful Son and telling him was the hardest thing I have had to do but he has coped really well and is very positive. This week has been hard as I have awful side effects from the chemo and just have to stay in bed. So nice to be able to chat with someone going through same experiences so Thankyou xx 

I’m very fortunate in that I did not have chemo, I’ve found radiotherapy hard enough, absolute credit and respect to those who go through it. 

[@tigercub]‍  who also joins in with this thread is in the middle of chemo at the moment so int terms of the effects of that she’ll be much better than me to talk to. 

I have had surgery for breast cancer and as mentioned, finished radiotherapy. Both [@Jbains]‍ and [@Sandra123]‍ have also been down this route. 

My ex did the dirty on me when our son was five months old but that’s history now. 

My kids, especially my daughter, have been brilliant during this. 

I’ve returned to work on a phased return and am finding it hard but it’s would have to be done at some point so might as well get on with it. The office is closed from 22  December until 2 January so get a nice long break!

Hi poor you being cheated on .not all men like that thank god .is it your 1st chemo I'm on 3rd and found this one bit harder course trying do few things and Xmas just whack me out have definitely rest more .rest as much as you can good luck 

Hi 

just dropping by too:-)

I’m happily divorced:-) when I look back I can honestly say my life is better than it would have been if we were still together. We remain friends just not married:-)

My biggest support came from my 2 daughters who were just amazing but u know what - it was so heartwarming to have even just acquaintances take time out in passing to ask how I was doing. 

We look this disease in the eye nd stare it down because we can. You can do this. Yes it sucks... but girl you reach out on the bad days, share the good, embrace the anger and take each day as a win. 

We are here if u need or want us. 

Take care x