Hello lovely,

i'm so so sorry to hear of your recent diagnosis. It's such a difficult journey to go through generally without everything else going on at the moment.

From here on it will be quick, have they mentioned anything about chemotherapy or radiotherapy to you?

after you surgery - if chemo is an option - that will come quick, alongside hormone therapy due to ER/PR +ve histology.

Radiotherapy then will soon follow AFTER chemo if that also is an option for you.

it's a very long journey ahead, so please don't think you need to be brave or hold it together, you are going to have good days and then very down, bad, depressing days, both of which are normal. I would be as honest as you can with your family, whenever you're feeling your worst. Or if you don't feel comfortable with this just yet due to not wanting to worry them (which is never the case so please don't think this), confide in a friend. Please don't hold it all in and put a front. 
 

i'm unsure of exactly what your prognosis is and i'm by far not an oncologist, but if you're unsure your oncologist will always go into as much detail as YOU want regarding it. You're in charge.

Please also don't think why you've had this diagnosis. There are so many reasons from age, gender, breast size, having children etc, the list is endless, so please don't point the finger at yourself ever, it unfortuanately happens to the best of people sometimes. Keep your grandaughter in mind when going through what you're about to over the next few months, it will be hard, it will be sad, and it will make you want to give it all up. Make sure she's your motivation to fight this! There are so many links on macmillan and here on feeling down and how to manage it, and there a social workers who can explain to your grandaughter to if she's within a certain age group if that is something you would like to look into.

All the best to you my lovely. 
Thinking of you and your family during your journey.