still feel very alone 24 hours after my post

Hi nessbx.

i saw your post and it inspired me to sign up to this forum. I just wanted to send you a massive virtual hug so you would know somebody out there cares. It made me feel so sad to think of you all alone. 

Be guided by your mum, and be there for her as and when she wants to talk , it's big news to take in for you all.

another virtual hug for you x 

Sending a huge virtual hug to you

Thank you so much for your reply and hug it really means a lot wen some days I feel alone even tho I have my hubby and family I still feel like I'm battling with it all . Glad u joined people like u leaving nice comments makes my situation a little more bearable xxx

Hi thank you for your reply and hug . It means a lot , I just struggle some days my hubby and family are supportive but I feel like because iv no brothers or sisters I'm dealing wiv everything and having to make decisions. Wiv mum I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster one day like wed I thought she may die In the night as she looked so ill and in pain and not eaten but then Thursday night she picked up again . I hope ur dad don't suffer and I'm sending u a hug back in the same if you want to chat on here please message me as sometimes talking to a stranger helps .. big hugs xxx

Thank you xx

Hi Nessbx,

I am so sorry to hear about your Mum and to learn that you feel so alone in dealing with all this

At 85 your mother is of a different era, when people didn’t talk about cancer, but just got on with it. Treatment regimens were not as effective as they are today and most people looked upon a cancer diagnosis as a death sentence. No wonder she is in denial.

Have you thought about counselling? This can be very helpful for some people and there are many organisations who offer this service free of charge.

I agree that it is horrendous to watch a loved one fading before your very eyes and it is draining on you too. I lost my Mum to secondary cancer several years ago and I still miss her every day. She had metastases in liver, lungs, brain and bone latterly.

I do hope and pray that your Mum passes peacefully and with her pain well controlled.

There is always someone here whenever you want to speak. Sending a huge virtual hug.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Sending a big hug hun, i lost my dear darling dad to lung cancer last night i was with him till his last breath, its horrible and not easy at all to watch someone you love so dearly deteriate and die in front of your eyes and theres nothing you can do its heartbreaking. Try and stay strong for your mum i no its easier said than done but she may be scared so try and comfort her as much as possible. Im here if you ever wanna talk xx

thank you so much for ur comments some days are harder than others , but knowing im not alone helps a little .xx